You Feel Far Away

It's been almost 8 years since you died.
I moved out of our apartment long ago.
Then I moved again. 
And then again. 
Then I made a big move out of the NY area completely - leaving where we shared all of our years together. 
I have a totally different job than when you were alive. 
I'm going into real estate. 
I wrote about you. About us.
We have a niece named Jillian that you never met. She is very silly and funny and she is 6 years old.
Our nephew Brian is 9 now, and hes really good at baseball, just like his dad and his grandpa. He would be chiding you now about the Yankees and telling you they suck. You would be playing video gAmes together. 
My parents are doing well, and although your name is still mentioned here and there by family, it's me that keeps you alive and relevant. It's my honor and my responsibility - one that I take very seriously. But I often wish that your other friends and family would speak of you more. I wish we could all be in touch better. I wish I felt more connected.
It's been 8 years and I just miss you.
I long to talk about you with others. 
Day to day, my life feels more distant from whatever form of energy life that you live now. I feel you near, and I know you are, but the life I'm living feels so far away from the life we were building. This makes me sad, even though I am happy.
I wish I could explain what it feels like to miss your very best friend.
I miss talking to you and hearing your words talk back. 
I could be mostly okay with this whole death thing, if once a week or so, we could have a conversation or sing and play guitar together. If we could just have a short visit.
Maybe then, I wouldn't feel like you're so far away. 
Maybe. 

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  • Karen Lawrence
    commented 2019-07-03 17:15:52 -0700
    Almost 7 years for me. I so completely understand everything you wrote here. Tough time of year for me. July is the month of our wedding anniversary and August was the month he died. Definitely taints the feeling of summer.
  • Emily Lynn
    commented 2019-06-28 13:35:14 -0700
    So much of this resonates with me. Although it has only been 18 months since my husband died I can feel him getting further away. One Sunday morning I was driving down a main road by our home ; one I drive and have driven down hundreds of times. I noticed that the Hardee’s had shut down out of nowhere, or so it felt like it, who really knows since I am not as observant as I used to be. I was instantly crying about Hardee’s closing (only here could I say this and not be made to feel like I am absolutely loosing it). Frequently on the weekend we would go to a local donut shop or that Hardee’s for breakfast, so I had some emotional attachment to it. He was not around to see it closed, and I would never have breakfast there again. It was devastating. That was when I first realized that moving forward I would feel another sense of loss as the life and the world keeps on going.