Teresa W

  • commented on Widowed and Scary~ 2018-12-12 19:38:53 -0800
    We also scare people because we’re their worst nightmare. Sometimes I want to say, “don’t worry, your husband won’t die too if you hang out with me”

  • commented on Always Learning~ 2018-11-20 20:13:18 -0800

  • commented on Being Dead Is Not A Happy Anniversary 2018-10-26 19:46:00 -0700
    We share our anniversary date. I had a much longer marriage than you, but my husband was only 55, so I still feel robbed. Sometimes I buy myself an anniversary present. It kind of gives me something to look forward to about the day. Last year I bought two beautiful maple trees for our yard, but I haven’t decided if or what I’ll get this year.

  • commented on Happy Belated 2018-04-03 11:56:15 -0700
    Really enjoy your letters to Drew each year!

  • commented on The Me Now 2018-02-08 05:16:14 -0800
    Also from Ontario. Looking forward to reading about your journey.
    And so true. Inspirational? Strong? Really? We had no choice, we’re just doing what we have to to get through the days.

  • commented on Three Divorces and a Funeral 2017-10-29 06:43:14 -0700
    I want to say that I 100 percent agree with you. There is absolutely no comparison to our losses and their divorces.
    But as a relatively young widow, 54 at the time, those around me, who all still had their spouses, didn’t know what to do with me. I ended up meeting a newly divorced woman who became a wonderful supportive friend. We both had suffered losses and were grieving, but obviously differently. The important thing was that she never compared, never started a sentence with “at least you had”…. But we have a lot in common, fumbling our way around running households on our own, money issues, lonely Saturday nights, etc.
    The big thing here is that she was respectful and didn’t compare, which is your point.

  • commented on Dusky Nights into Morning~ 2017-07-05 07:31:05 -0700
    Thank you, thank you, thank you. I save almost all your posts and re-read them all the time. I hope you know you put into words what a lot of us are feeling.

  • commented on Kelley Lynn at TedX 2017-03-31 11:46:33 -0700
    Enjoyed your talk. Great job!

  • commented on A Slice of Hope 2016-11-11 20:15:33 -0800
    my joyful thing: it’s my sister’s 50th birthday this weekend. Sometimes things have been a little strained with her, but I think after my husband dying, maybe her realizing life is short and family is special, she’s really come around. We had a lovely dinner out with a few other siblings. She was appreciative and emotional, and it was lovely.

  • commented on Trust Your Gut 2016-08-19 09:53:45 -0700
    Wow, a very wise woman indeed.

  • commented on Sharing With Myself 2016-06-30 05:20:31 -0700
    Are you going to show us a picture of what she made?

  • commented on Welcome Our New Writer Michelle Midgett 2016-06-06 15:33:52 -0700
    Seems weird to say welcome, so I won’t, but I look forward to reading about your journey here.

  • commented on I Want To Share This With Him 2016-02-13 06:32:18 -0800
    Yes, that urge to call them and tell them things. I guess it doesn’t go away.
    Oh, and congratulations!

  • commented on Hopefully in Time 2015-12-27 20:43:23 -0800
    How do we explain that total feeling of loneliness when we in a room/house full of loved ones?

  • commented on Making Meaning 2015-11-29 07:07:22 -0800
    Know that you and the other writers help me every week!

  • commented on Laden with Gold 2015-11-05 19:52:28 -0800
    Sadly I’ve been reading this blog for over a year, and I think this post has touched me the most of all so far.
    Beautiful. Thank you so much!

  • commented on Fragments and Words~ 2015-08-05 10:21:10 -0700
    Wow, this post resonated with me so much that I want to forward it to everyone I know. I too am exhausted, and I know a lot of it is also from poor eating habits and lack of exercise. I have just in the last couple of weeks decided to do something about this and am hoping that other things sort themselves out if I can work on those two things.
    Clusterfuck is the perfect word to describe our situations.
    I don’t really wish for anything either. I hate that I can engage with people, and do fun things, but find joy in nothing. My children are in their mid twenties so not getting married and having babies yet and I’m so glad because I am not sure I could handle the bittersweet ness of it all.