Sharon Wall

  • commented on Ashes and Tears 2016-12-30 19:24:23 -0800
    I think about this stuff a lot lately, especially since my dad and 2 wonderful uncles died in 2016, the most recent a few short days ago. Now my mom and all of her sisters are widows. I also regret I wasn’t as understanding as I could have been to others whose partners died before I had lived that hell. Now I know and I’m doing better.

    I hope Brian, my dad and my uncles are having a rocking good time in the afterlife, whatever that looks like.

  • commented on The People Who Stay 2016-12-23 03:17:20 -0800
    Me too, Stephanie. 2 1/2 years since Brian died and the season seems pretty joyless. Add to that, Dad’s death last March, Mom’s decreasing mobility and her sadness that Dad is no longer with us and there seems little reason to celebrate. But I’m glad I’m able to provide her with the kind of support I can because I too am living it.

    I’ve been surprised at some of the friends who have stayed and some who haven’t and it does seem to be those who get it that stick around.

    Thinking of you and your family and sending love.

  • commented on D-Day 2016-11-05 21:14:01 -0700
    Again – so much in common. Your dad. My dad. Your mom. My mom. Sad for you. Sad for me. Although I don’t want to create pressure ( although I know I may be), please, please keep,writing. I love your posts so much because they always resonate with me. If you do decide to stop, I’d go anywhere to meet you for coffee/wine.,,,

  • commented on All Is Not Lost 2016-10-07 14:56:35 -0700
    I’m so sorry you lost the house, Stephanie. Even though you expected it was coming, it’s yet another loss. And it’s mixed with the excitement of school and a new job you’re having fun with and the worry about your parents who are far away. Bitter and sweet all mixed together. Once again there are so many parallels with my life. I’ve just listed my condo because I want to relocate to another province, there are worries about a parent …. Wish you were close enough to grab a coffee or a glass of wine – I know we would have many things to chat about. Take good care! I think you’re pretty amazing!

  • commented on Vernacular 2016-09-15 22:32:35 -0700
    OMG, yes! “Dust” in my eyes right now! Brian’s way of turning a phrase. His way of perfectly imitating the Italian barber after a haircut (perhaps politically incorrect, but astoundingly accurate)! I miss that so damn much – and so many other things. 💔💔😰. Looking so forward to seeing you in TO, Kelley Lynn

  • commented on Sharing Grief 2016-09-02 14:43:48 -0700
    I’m blown away! Once again you have put words to much of my recent experience. I know you will find your way through limbo-land, even though it likely won’t always be comfortable. I was hiking yesterday and as I walked from more open terrain into deep forest, I thought the path was kind of like life feels these days – I couldn’t see very far ahead, but had to trust the trail was there and would take me to the destination.

  • commented on So I Don't Fade~ 2016-08-31 19:04:35 -0700
    Yep – doing the stuff, working hard, looking good to others. Doesn’t mean a thing. Yep. Me too.

  • commented on The Things Inside 2016-08-31 19:03:07 -0700
    What a courageous post! It brought home to me how I’m not letting anyone see what is behind the mask and that that is likely why I’ve been feeling like I have been. Looking forward to Camp where I can be real. Thank you.

  • commented on Thanks Death, Now I Have To... 2016-08-22 14:03:23 -0700
    Yes, Sarah! Thanks so much for your post! I have some similar things going on, but haven’t had the right words to express how I’m feeling. The decisions right now feel so damn big and I’m so sad and annoyed that I have to be making plan B decisions at all. I know you’ll sort it out and it’s wonderful that you know you 100% want this life you’re building with Mike and Shelby.

  • commented on How Much Time? 2016-08-04 18:07:07 -0700
    I’m glad you don’t feel ready to leave yet although I understand asking the question of yourself. I would miss your posts!! A lot!! I can’t believe how I consistently relate to your experiences and appreciate your insight.

    And about parting with our husband’s stuff – I recently sold Brian’s motorcycle. I feel great that it’s on the road again with someone who is enjoying it a lot! I hope you can have the same experience as you part with Mike’s bicycle and surfboards.

  • commented on No Reason to Fear 2016-07-24 13:59:52 -0700
    You’re an inspiration, Sarah and you have a real talent for putting your experience into words. Thank you! #facethefear

  • commented on The Agony of Defeat 2016-07-22 22:00:38 -0700
    Yes, yes, yes!! Defeated is the perfect word to describe how I’m feeling. A year ago I had hope and optimism. Where there hell did that go? I’m tired – so very tired. Maybe we’ve been working so hard at moving forward/moving through that we need to rest right now. I have no clue – just grasping at straws…..

  • commented on Plan B 2016-07-22 21:55:09 -0700
    I’m having some of the same questions about my Plan B since Plan A was blown up 25 months ago. Funny how when I’m thinking about something, a blog post comes along that addresses the same issue. Thank you. And I wish you luck although I have complete faith you’ll figure it all out one step at a time.

  • commented on A Dance In The Dark 2016-07-14 20:31:03 -0700
    Dancing in the dark – I like that imagery. It fits for me too. I’m glad you’re beginning to sense a potential path for yourself and it gives me hope that I might find one too as long as I remain open to possibilities. I’m finding that doing “stuff” even if it is fun stuff isn’t the same as having a path.

  • commented on Fight Hate With Love 2016-07-08 20:18:00 -0700
    Thank you for your thoughtful post. It sounds like Brian and Don were a lot alike. I’ve been thinking lately how much I miss Brian’s wisdom, political analysis and the sense of safety I had with him. Lately , at 25 months out, this grief journey has become more difficult.

  • commented on Widowhood Confusion....What? 2016-07-07 11:13:23 -0700
    No, you’re certainly not alone in feeling as you do and asking all of these questions. Once again you’ve put my feelings into eloquent words. So many days I feel like a fraud because my inside and outside are so out of synch, but it’s not that I’m trying to hide anything. This is just how it is.

    Sarah, I too find being in a new relationship adds to the confusion and the questions AND, on top of that, people now expect me to be absolutely fine.

  • commented on Sharing With Myself 2016-07-02 21:01:53 -0700
    I’ve been experiencing all of this recently and have felt like I’m losing it. Thank you for putting words to what I’ve been feeling especially the part about the spirit of your partnership. God, I miss that. I miss being part of the team we were together.

  • commented on The Tsunami of July 2016-07-02 20:55:13 -0700
    Thanks for your post, Kelley. It’s right on as always. My tsunami is from mid March until June 13 – when Brian went into the hospital and never got out until his memorial. I call it the death march. It’s been 25 months now and even though the pain isn’t as sharp, I’m feeling so worn out from it all.

  • commented on As Life Continues~ 2016-06-30 16:52:26 -0700
    Exactly! There is no preparation. 25 months tomorrow and I still wonder how this can be my life.

  • commented on Still Healing, Still Growing 2016-06-19 17:01:50 -0700
    Thank you for this , Rebecca. I’m in a similar place with similar feelings.

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