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  • commented on Hollow 2018-04-17 19:05:59 -0700
    Here it is – almost 4 years since Brian died and I’ve recently been thinking the same things you’re writing about. I’ve been so familiar with that hollow feeling, looking fine on the outside, yet not wanting to engage with my life, going inward, engaging less with others – all of it. Finally the inner work I’ve been doing seems to be paying off and I’m getting glimmers of enthusiasm again. Thank you for putting my feelings into such eloquent words.

  • commented on My Husband Died and All I Got Was This Lousy Book 2018-04-08 21:41:22 -0700
    There is nothing straightforward about the feelings we have when our love dies. I can’t begin to imagine how that would be magnified by having written a book about it. I look forward to reading your book.

    This is particularly raw for me now as we have just had an enormous tragedy in my home province – 15 young men were killed on Friday in a horrific accident when their hockey bus was hit by a semi.

    And Lisa – 5 days! Lean on your family, friends and everyone here. Soaring Spirits is a great organization! Sending love.

  • commented on Galaxies within Us 2017-12-31 06:59:59 -0800
    Thanks for this, Sarah. “A softer, more gentle pain”. After 3 1/2 years, this is true for me too. I too have done a lot of running, but now feel ready for what is next in 2018.

  • commented on Knowing the Unknown and Beyond~ 2017-12-21 10:47:30 -0800
    Wow! Does this post ever resonate!!
    “How can a life so full feel so empty?” When I think of what I’ve done in the 3 1/2 years since Brian died, I can hardly believe it. I’ve accomplished some great and exciting stuff! I’ve read great books. I’ve met cool people – and some not so cool people. I’m more settled and content now than at any time since before he got sick. And yet, life feels empty. I wonder too if that’s just part of the package.

  • commented on Inward and Outward 2017-12-01 17:24:55 -0800
    Nailed it again, Stephanie. 3 1/2 years today and Brian is with me/not with me and I too agonize, make peace, agonize again. Beautifully written.

  • commented on Ramble On 2017-11-07 17:42:08 -0800
    Makes total sense to me, Mike, for whatever that’s worth.

  • commented on Here I Stand 2017-08-17 17:37:09 -0700
    So sorry for the loss of your friend, loss of an era, and most of all, of your life with Mike. I haven’t yet had to face losses of contemporaries, but I know that will come and it bring all the feelings flooding back. Brian and I also didn’t quite make 14 years. It would have been 17 years on Aug 26.

    Searingly alone – I know that feeling.

    You have such a powerful way with words. Thank you.

  • commented on The Meaning of Teeth 2017-07-13 17:40:02 -0700
    Yes, yes, yes, Stephanie! Once again, you nailed it!
    As I read the other comments, it struck me that we’re each on our own little island feeling the same way, despite important supports like the blog, the work of SSI and a ton of other support options. This stuff is just freaking hard! I want a magic wand that will fix it all.

  • commented on Embrace the Tomboy 2017-06-29 21:28:41 -0700
    Mike – as the mom of 2 women, the step-mom of 1 woman and the grandma of 4 girls and 2 boys, you’re awesome! You and Sarah are awesome together. Don’t doubt yourself. Shelby is and will continue to be great!

  • commented on Just Another Week 2017-06-29 21:25:00 -0700
    Uncertain and unsettled – just another week in the life of a widow. Yes, yes and yes.

  • commented on His Heart and Mine 2017-06-22 18:52:17 -0700
    Stephanie – I’ve had the same thoughts about Brian – he was also,59 when he died. If he’d come through chemo, stem cell transplant would have been next, and who knows how strong he could really have become after all of that. He would have hated to admit to reduced ability of any kind – in fact he once asked the doc “when will I be able to change the tire on my
    ^{%{^*ing truck?” Those are tough things to think about and they sure don’t make me miss him any less.

  • commented on Soul Searching 2017-06-08 19:04:14 -0700
    Yes, yes, yes – limbo land! I know it well. Competing priorities. Being true to you. Caring about family, friends. None of it is simple in your life or mine. Somehow I thought that by the time I hit my 60s, life would be settled and calm, but it has proven to be anything but.
    I know you will find your path. You’re a wise woman. So will I.
    Love to you, my friend.

  • commented on Killer Lonliness 2017-06-02 00:05:47 -0700
    So, do the Camino. Who know what insights it holds.

  • commented on Another Runner Up? 2017-01-21 22:01:38 -0800
    This is definitely a “thing.” So many questions I’ve asked myself and observations I’ve also made. Just wish I had the answers.

  • commented on Ashes and Tears 2016-12-30 19:24:23 -0800
    I think about this stuff a lot lately, especially since my dad and 2 wonderful uncles died in 2016, the most recent a few short days ago. Now my mom and all of her sisters are widows. I also regret I wasn’t as understanding as I could have been to others whose partners died before I had lived that hell. Now I know and I’m doing better.

    I hope Brian, my dad and my uncles are having a rocking good time in the afterlife, whatever that looks like.

  • commented on The People Who Stay 2016-12-23 03:17:20 -0800
    Me too, Stephanie. 2 1/2 years since Brian died and the season seems pretty joyless. Add to that, Dad’s death last March, Mom’s decreasing mobility and her sadness that Dad is no longer with us and there seems little reason to celebrate. But I’m glad I’m able to provide her with the kind of support I can because I too am living it.

    I’ve been surprised at some of the friends who have stayed and some who haven’t and it does seem to be those who get it that stick around.

    Thinking of you and your family and sending love.

  • commented on D-Day 2016-11-05 21:14:01 -0700
    Again – so much in common. Your dad. My dad. Your mom. My mom. Sad for you. Sad for me. Although I don’t want to create pressure ( although I know I may be), please, please keep,writing. I love your posts so much because they always resonate with me. If you do decide to stop, I’d go anywhere to meet you for coffee/wine.,,,

  • commented on All Is Not Lost 2016-10-07 14:56:35 -0700
    I’m so sorry you lost the house, Stephanie. Even though you expected it was coming, it’s yet another loss. And it’s mixed with the excitement of school and a new job you’re having fun with and the worry about your parents who are far away. Bitter and sweet all mixed together. Once again there are so many parallels with my life. I’ve just listed my condo because I want to relocate to another province, there are worries about a parent …. Wish you were close enough to grab a coffee or a glass of wine – I know we would have many things to chat about. Take good care! I think you’re pretty amazing!

  • commented on Vernacular 2016-09-15 22:32:35 -0700
    OMG, yes! “Dust” in my eyes right now! Brian’s way of turning a phrase. His way of perfectly imitating the Italian barber after a haircut (perhaps politically incorrect, but astoundingly accurate)! I miss that so damn much – and so many other things. 💔💔😰. Looking so forward to seeing you in TO, Kelley Lynn

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