Stephanie Vendrell

  • commented on My Life With Grief 2016-03-31 19:01:29 -0700
    Thank you Carla and Sharon…terrible things to have in common but I am glad it resonated. We are all here together the support is so important.

  • commented on Trying to Treasure 2016-03-18 01:11:42 -0700
    And thank you Lisa for reading, and commenting, and for sharing. It means everything.

  • commented on A story story 2016-03-13 12:26:58 -0700
    Thank you Cathy! I do miss sharing it all with him so much…

  • commented on A Wandering Widow 2016-03-04 21:44:04 -0800
    Lisa what a beautiful way to put it…we are patchwork quilts aren’t we? Thank you…It’s well worn but it is MY quilt and I wouln’t trade having lived it either. Blessings.

  • commented on Hovering in Limbo 2016-02-26 14:13:41 -0800
    You are so right – no Wikipedia page like this exists. We all struggle to put it all into words…thank you for commenting, I’m so sorry for your loss.

  • commented on Familiar Roads 2016-02-26 00:08:31 -0800
    Yeah it’s goddamn hard. Having a friend is ok I think… No pressure, right?…hopefully, yet easier said than done…my musician came upon me so unexpectedly, and even not knowing what will happen, his companionship has mattered…maybe, that’s all it is…and that’s ok…but missing them, amidst it all whatever and whoever…always will be, the sucky part and I can’t stop it…xoxo

  • commented on What does a Widow Look Like? 2016-02-20 03:47:30 -0800
    OMG I love this. It’s my experience as well. Thank you for such an enlightened look.

  • commented on Death Day 2016-02-19 12:38:02 -0800
    Thank you Cathy and Lisa. Yes, changes and challenges…changes are challenges and challenges always bring changes…thank you for the congrats it’s a very bittersweet time.

  • commented on Valentine's for all Kinds 2016-02-14 15:05:21 -0800
    This made me smile. Hugs to you all.

  • commented on Monkeying Around 2016-02-11 12:49:41 -0800
    Oh Penny, that just means the world. Thank you so much. Hugs to you.

  • commented on The Never-Ending Dance~ 2016-02-03 02:43:37 -0800
    Adrift in the Universe…powerful imagery Alison. It resonates with me. Sending you love through your difficult therapy. This all just sucks so much.

  • commented on Good Widowing 2016-01-31 14:22:07 -0800
    Giving yourself permission to rest, and recognize the signs and take action is indeed a powerful learning curve. I wasn’t like that either before Mike died but do find many of my daily decisions are a reaction to the ever present grief (and good counseling as well). Thank you for sharing this.

  • commented on Jumble 2016-01-29 15:01:13 -0800
    Reading this I felt myself smile a grim, knowing smile…thank you for putting this into words. I know the point of the post is to do just that, for those of us having felt just that very thing.

  • commented on One More Phone Call 2016-01-25 16:31:20 -0800
    Thank you for this. I was standing outside last night talking to Mike, shouting at the moon he loved so much, crying that I missed him and can’t believe he’s not here to talk to anymore, to answer back, tell me he loves me and share in any news or thoughts of the day…it never ends.

  • commented on ... And Still 2016-01-22 15:06:27 -0800
    Yes. Beautiful. Thank you.

  • commented on Death blows 2016-01-22 15:05:34 -0800
    Yes Lisa – definitely more impact now than before. We will always think of the wives and families. Thank you for commenting.

  • commented on Changing of the Colors 2016-01-19 14:41:42 -0800
    I am happy to read about your making the house more your home. And I get it’s a hard thing to do…I often look around at my house imagining how it used to look when Mike was alive, and how slowly over the almost three years how much has been changed…his room is now the guest room, and while I haven’t painted it and a few things of his remain it is mostly unrecognizable from the way it stood when he was the occupant. Sometimes me and the dogs go in there and sniff around, I think trying to find some remnant of him…but like you I could not just mothball things and at the end of the day it is a symbol of my work to continue on with the life I have. Mike would have approved I know.

  • commented on Myrtle 2016-01-16 23:48:37 -0800
    And thank you, Cathy, for coming here and commenting. I will think of you all now too when I sit there and meditate with Myrtle.

  • commented on Death and Life 2016-01-16 23:47:07 -0800
    What a difficult thing to go through with your Mom. I am happy her prognosis is good…and yes eventually we will all experience the death. Trying to find a peace with it is so hard. Sending love and well wishes to you and your family.

  • commented on Witnessing New Life 2016-01-16 23:45:17 -0800
    Rebecca, I am glad you got to share such a precious moment. I think often of the lives being born, and how they will influence the world in ways we don’t know yet…this against the pain of the lives we have lost, whose influence we know all too well. Life is a strange thing. Hugs.

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