Sharon, thank you, the paths ahead of us can be hard to see and hard to travel, that’s for sure. And Lisa indeed it is all so very strange and not what I feel like I signed up for. But like you said, our loves will be traveling with us in our hearts…as terrible as that is as a second best kind of thing, it is just what we have for now.

Thank you Don…Teresa I will when it is completed, it’s very special…

Thank you Lisa…so many of us widowed folk I see feeling in limbo. Like you I’m trying not to go blindly…and trying to see my path. It’s SO not easy. I wish you peace and joy as well.

Hi Sharon…sad but true, I guess this will always be part of us now…

Aloha Michelle, thank you deeply for sharing your story, and my sincere sympathy at your terrible loss. You’ve been through just so much. I am glad you will be part of our support here at Soaring Spirits, though devastated to learn of another member of our terrible club. My heart and blessings to you.

So perfectly written, and powerfully stated. I relate to this so deeply. Thank you, Kelley.

Hi Lisa, thank you, the frozen thing is something I’ve been experiencing so that’s good to hear. I always wonder if what I am going through will resonate. I’m so glad we have this avenue to share.

Nail on the head yet again, Kelley. I often wonder if Mike would recognize me with everything that’s happened since he died…but of course he would. We would, as you said, slip our hands together, look into each other’s eyes, and it would be like he never left. xoxo

Lisa…yes. We know now. A terrible thing but to others the relief not to have to explain. Diane…I’m deeply sorry to hear of these troubles. It’s a terrible tragedy when money issues cause more pain. I hope it can be resolved soon. A terrible place to be. Sending hugs xoxo

Your experience is very supportive to what I’m going through with my house foreclosure…and the big decisions I feel are ahead for myself. It’s bittersweet. Can’t wait to hear about the new place and have a great month with all else going on. xoxo

I hear you. I had a dream last night where I was sobbing into my stepdaughter’s arms how much I missed Mike and when I woke up I had tears on my face. Making new memories is SO hard. Thank you so much for being there Cathy.

Thank you Cathy. Sometimes I’m not sure if my weekly thoughts resonate in our community…but I just write about where I am. So I really appreciate your support. xoxo

Oh man. I’ve found notes and poems from Mike he never showed me, after he died; but finding a letter to your child like that…super powerful. From what I can tell I don’t think Shelby will ever NEED to read it, because she has such strength and support all around here…from Megan too, just like she promised. But it’s all a treasured gift.

Indeed we definitely can’t be skydivers every day. Seriously good way to think about it. It’s all so challenging, all the bits that we find along the way into this strange new world. You are doing amazing work. One of the hardest things is to make those decisions, to know what’s best for us, what we really want.

Wow Penny I’m glad there was some bit that spoke to you here…boy going through the stuff is such a huge and difficult thing to do. I’m glad you will get a little help. Sharon, you totally nailed it about “bad” decisions not necessarily being absolute…thanks for the reminder. Your confidence is appreciated…and your support, it means everything.

Boy you said it, Cathy. I definitely feel older than I am since Mike died. Grief really takes its toll in so many ways. Thank you so much for commenting and sharing. So deeply sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how horrifying it was for you with the misdiagnosis.

Right…life definitely seems to have its own plans for us. And I am also grateful for our village :) Thank you Lisa.

This resonates since I am starting negotiations to keep my house…or soon, I will be doing this too. 14 years of stuff…and all the memories, those we shared here, and those he missed…congratulations on the big decision to move, but it is not easy. Not easy at all.

Another widowed friend of mine here in Kona asked me last night if I’d read your post this week; I said yes, and we shared a quiet moment of understanding. She’s not really an internet person and doesn’t comment, but she reads all of us here at Widow’s Voice faithfully every morning, even after her 12 years into it…and she has been through several hurtful mis-starts with dating and it’s so painful. Let’s face it: it takes an awful lot to put ourselves out there and it hurts on so many levels when it doesn’t work. We are so fragile. Like I wrote recently, a new relationship can never replace our loves and doesn’t fix that hole in our hearts…but it’s pretty damn nice to have someone to talk to and do things with. So Kelley, this whole thing just sucks, and you are most definitely in our thoughts. Our hearts are hurting with you.

Hi Sharon; thank you for your thoughts and support. The community is so important and your comment is appreciated!