Stephanie Vendrell

  • commented on Rapid Fire 2016-10-14 11:43:47 -0700
    Lisa, yes, trying to breathe and enjoy the small, good moments and prepare myself for what’s ahead as well…and Cathy, going with the flow, whatever it is, seems like a lesson hard learned but well fought for. Thank you ladies.

  • commented on All Is Not Lost 2016-10-08 14:20:27 -0700
    Oh Ladies, thank you so much for your beautiful support and comments. It’s such a stressful time right now, and knowing you are all out there makes a huge difference. And please know…I am here holding space for you all too. We are all just walking through the fires.

  • commented on Walking Collages 2016-10-03 13:16:44 -0700
    Oh Jennifer, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I was also 44 when my husband died, just before my 45th birthday, and he was also 59. We had just short of 14 years together. He had two daughters, not twins, but they are my dear lifelines and treasure them very much. We’ve all had a very hard time. The first few months are like walking through a dark abyss. Over three and a half years later all I can say is, it’s taken this long, and maybe it will be an ongoing process, to learn to live with the grief. My life has taken on a lot of changes but he remains in my heart. Hugs and blessings to you. Glad you found Soaring Spirits. It’s truly a wonderful organization.

  • commented on Noticing Saturdays 2016-09-24 14:27:34 -0700
    Thanks Karin, I appreciate your support so much! And Lisa, yes, taking steps, and so grateful to have you along for the ride, wild as it is.

  • commented on Dew Drops and Sunshine 2016-09-17 14:00:44 -0700
    So inspirational, Kaiti. Thank you.

  • commented on Collective Grief 2016-09-15 16:19:06 -0700
    Thank you for commenting Karin…wow those are a lot of hard memories around that date. Something none of us will ever forget, for so many reasons…xoxo

  • commented on A Path Built on Love 2016-09-09 14:14:16 -0700
    Wow. I share the excitement, terror and sorrow with these transitional changes Kelley. You are incredibly blessed to have such a supportive family. And I know a LOT of people out here support you too, including me. We’ve not met yet but I hope we will someday. Lots of hugs.

  • commented on Whodathunkit? 2016-09-09 14:08:24 -0700
    Thanks Cathy. Some days it feels easier than others. But yes I’m definitely off on a new adventure. I appreciate your support, it means a lot knowing you are out there.

  • commented on Sharing Grief 2016-09-02 13:17:42 -0700
    Lisa, yes I believe you are right…that path we search for often feels obscured but it did lead me to Mike, didn’t it. Thank you. Cathy – you are definitely right too, we don’t know where that path is leading, but we keep going, even with the grief in the passenger seat the whole time. Thank you ladies.

  • commented on My Davy Jones Moment 2016-09-02 13:15:28 -0700
    Oh my gosh Kelley – that was SO a gift from Don. What an incredible thing to happen – I’d never wash that cheek again either!!

  • commented on Here's to Grief 2016-08-28 12:56:40 -0700
    Although I would not wish it on anyone, I too have experienced this common thread of grief resulting in new friendships. And I am so deeply glad for it, because these are the people that get it. They are the ones I can talk to about it all, and without them I would be swimming in very deep water indeed. Thank you for sharing this.

  • commented on Happiness List 2016-08-27 13:17:32 -0700
    I so love this, Kaiti. I’m in the throes of trying to grow stronger…it’s so hard with the grief tagging alone. But I so agree with this list, thank you for sharing this.

  • commented on Stepping Stones 2016-08-26 15:00:40 -0700
    Hi Marybeth, change is so hard, isn’t it. I’m so sorry for your loss, and thank you for your comment. Our mutual support is so crucial. Hugs.

  • commented on That Door 2016-08-21 20:45:48 -0700
    Thank you…thank you thank you thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings here. I never cease to be amazed and comforted by the parallels and knowing you all are out there, surviving in your own ways.

  • commented on Survival Preparedness 2016-08-21 20:43:04 -0700
    Oh my goodness, thank you so much for your support, ladies. It feels huge, what I’m doing now, and coming back and seeing your comments just made my day. It means a lot to know none of us are alone in this.

  • commented on Thanks Death, Now I Have To... 2016-08-21 11:53:33 -0700
    Oh man I SO GET THIS Sarah. I feel forced into this Plan B I didn’t want life, with all these horrible life changing decisions ahead of me…but tons of guilt because some of them I’m looking forward to…and lots of tears as I pack away my life with Mike. This is a huge change for you – but that feeling of “right” in your gut is the bottom line…I’m learning to follow that myself. It doesn’t make it easy, but at least it’s a guide. Blessings and hugs.

  • commented on Home Without Him 2016-08-20 11:43:19 -0700
    Kaiti, what a hard thing to do…I am looking towards the reality of moving and being somewhere new where he never was hurts so much. But it sounds like a good move for you, despite the heartache. Sending hugs.

  • commented on Leaving Stuff Behind 2016-07-29 11:53:33 -0700
    Wow everyone, thank you for the support and relatable experiences…it means a lot to know we have many of the same issues and feelings, hard as they all are. Quick note to let people know the hearing went fine, it was pretty basic, do you want to keep your house, yes, ok here is the mediation schedule be sure to file all paperwork by the deadlines. It will all be done by the end of September, one way or another. Thank you so deeply for all the supportive thoughts and wishes.

  • commented on The Agony of Defeat 2016-07-25 11:20:21 -0700
    Kelley you’ve described so many of my own thoughts so well here. Daunting, to have to make these decisions and possible life changes alone. Feeling defeated because we’re not “making it” the way we thought we could, or would, if our husbands were still here to support and encourage. To know the grief thing is permanent. And how to move forward with all of it. Sending hugs. Wish we were not in this slog.

  • commented on Plan B 2016-07-25 11:15:48 -0700
    Patricia – yes Plan B involves a ton of groping in the dark that is for sure. And I totally agree the scary part is being somewhere where you don’t know people yet. I have been thinking that a lot. I hope you can find a place…I hope we all find a place. Karin – wow great you are on here now! I know you read all the writers here and the mutual support is so important…well I’m not going anywhere yet we will have plenty of fun evenings ahead of us I hope…meanwhile so happy to have you in my life as we both search for the independent people we once were. Dori – thank you for sharing your thoughts here. Yes, rootless is a good word for this. So much changes when we don’t have our husbands as partner and person to share life. I hope you find a place too. Lisa – yes it feels scary instead of exciting right? which sucks. Is this just how it’s going to be forever now? I have yet to move so it’s good to hear about people who have, even if the feeling of being settled again still seems distant. Thank you for sharing. And Sharon – glad this resonated…and so glad we have each other to share these feelings. Yes one step at a time. Hugs.

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