When the person you thought you would spend your whole life with is dead, there's this weird thing that happens each and every time a person of fame or celebrity dies. It kind of goes something like this:
Holy Shit! Prince died! I have to tell Don, he LOVED Prince! Oh, shit. I can't tell Don that Prince is dead, because Don is dead too. Well, FUCK!!!!!
It is an odd feeling to crave and long to share the death of someone else, with your husband, but then realize over and over, that you can't, because he is also dead. And then you start to wonder weird things, like, does he already know that Prince is dead? Maybe he knew way before I did. Maybe his Purple energy showed up somewhere nearby my husband's energy and their energy hung out together. I don't know if I believe all this stuff people say about them "playing guitars together in Heaven", or anything like that - it just seems rather silly. But I do know that energy exists forever - it cannot be destroyed and it cannot end - so if we are made up of energy, and energy lives on and on, then Don is energy, and he is somewhere. I don't know exactly what that means, but I know that on some level, it helps me to keep going when I tell myself that. So maybe Prince and his genius mind and musical talents have somehow met up with Don and his passion for all things guitar. Maybe their souls are chatting, if souls can do such things. Who the hell knows? I just know that whenever someone dies here on earth, I always long to tell my husband. To share in the experience of processing their death, together. And each and every time it happens, it always feels weird to me that I can't share it with him. There are so many weird things about loving someone who is dead. This is one of the weirdest.
Also, the way that we, as a people, treat a celebrity or icon's death, is so very strangely different than the way we treat a civilian death. I always LOVE what immediately happens when an artist of some kind dies - people start collectively sharing every single thing that artist has ever done. They share it on social media, from their phones, their computers, posting links to all of the massive talent everywhere and anywhere, sharing it with the world. Eventually, people find long lost clips of this artist, and they share those too. Longtime fans of this person back in the memories of their talent, while newer and younger people become fans for the very first time. This artist is remembered in the healthiest and most beautiful way possible - by sharing the legacy of what they left behind. It is in this way, that a true artist never dies. They live on for generations, through their albums, movies, videos, dance routines, songwriting, epic guitar shredding, and whatever else. This is a beautiful thing that people do. Sharing with the universe, and keeping these people alive forever.
So why on earth do people NOT do this same thing with people they love who have died? Their very own friends and family members, people who are literally a piece of their very soul. Why is it that it is perfectly acceptable and normal and celebrated, to share the work of famous people who have died, and share their legacy - but when a widowed person shares a photo or a memory or anything at all about their spouse - they are told to "move on", or made to feel as if they should put those pictures away. They are shamed into thinking that remembering and honoring the person who was their very heart, is somehow wrong and unhealthy, and that they must not be grieving properly if they can't let them go by now.
The irony of that is tragic to me. We should be embarassed at the ways in which we make people who are grieving feel. If you have shared video links of Prince or David Bowie or anyone else famous who touched your soul and recently died, yet you are uncomfortable or judgmental toward someone who shares pieces of the person they lost who died - you should be rethinking your behaviors. Everyone leaves behind a legacy. The ones who are famous just get seen on a larger level. But everyone is a legacy to someone. Just because a person isn't known to the world, doesn't mean that perhaps they were someone else's world. And that person wants to share them with the universe, so that their soul stays alive forever. When the people we love die, that is all we have - that soul connection. Don't ever take that away from someone.
Keep sharing the people you love who died. Share them with the world, and never be ashamed.