Kelley Lynn

When I first lost my husband to sudden death, I knew absolutely nobody that was my age who was widowed. The word "widow" made me cringe, and I ran away from any possibility that it could or would ever apply to me. Then I discovered Soaring Spirits and Camp Widow. Here were these people - hundreds of them - all over the country and the world - who were just like me. They had lost their partners too, and they were hurting and feeling alone too. Except suddenly, none of us were alone anymore, because now we had each other. The widowed community that I have met through Soaring Spirits is a HUGE part of the reason why I am alive and WANTING to be alive today. No joke. My widowed friends save my life over and over and over again, and I love them in a way that is impossible to describe. Soaring Spirits connects widowed people, and when you lose the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with - connection to people who "get it" means everything. My friends in the widowed community are evidence that there is life - joyful life - after loss. They inspire me daily, and I will always pay it forward however I can to Soaring Spirits, for giving me back my life again.

New York State of Mind

"I don't have any reason, dont wanna waste more time

Im in a New York state of mind......." 

 

Ah yes, Billy Joel had it right with that song. 

Its been about 17 months since I left NYC, my second home, to move back to my home state of Massachusetts, finish my book, and see what comes next. I didnt expect to find love here in smalltown Mass, and I didnt expect for that love to provide not only the perfect ending to my book, but a new lease and purpose on life in addition. When I left NYC, in my heart, it was temporary. I kept saying: "I can always come back." But somewhere deep inside, I knew that my soul was being eaten alive by NYC, and my wallet too. So, I have made a lot of visits, and almost every one of them was because I had something professional or career-related going on in the city; a book signing event, a comedy show, this time its a TV taping on the local cable show OPEN TO HOPE. I will be one of a 3-person panel of widowed authors - me , Michelle Miller, and John Polo. We will talk about our books and about grief and loss. It will air at a later time. The evening before the taping, on Friday night, (this will post Friday for you all, but Im writing it Wednesday evening) the three of us will host a fun Karaoke Book-signing party in the city, sort of a "Meet and Greet" with anyone who wants to come out. In between all of that, I will see some friends and have some fun. Back to my NYC people. My NYC vibe. 

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  • commented on Fire and Rain and Huge Grief Triggers 2018-07-06 19:26:41 -0700
    Johan, 15 years later, are the grief triggers still there??? Im guessing the answer is YES.

  • commented on PRESSURE 2018-05-29 07:15:46 -0700
    Hi Linda! And thank you! Yes of course. The book will be available through Amazon once its finished. I will let everyone know!!!

  • commented on Second Time Around 2018-04-27 13:14:52 -0700
    Thank you Misty!

  • commented on The Last Dance 2018-04-10 08:05:59 -0700
    Dammit Mike. I was fine until that last sentence.
    You always get me with the crying…….
    ps dry bologna sandwiches sound nasty. They need to do better for the dads!

  • commented on Coffee with Missing Pieces 2018-03-16 09:04:38 -0700
    Oh man, I totally wish I could hug you in a creepy manner right now, and call you mommy LOL. I don’t know what its like to lose your mom so young in life, or to go through adulthood without your mom or dad – I don’t know what that is – but your beautiful and honest writings about it, have certainly helped me to better understand that feeling of nervousness , of feeling ungrounded. I DO understand so well about hearing a word, such as “mom”, in normal conversation, and having it just wound you, and shine a light on the thing you will never have. I love you, mommy – and I think youre a courageous person. I so wish I could see you next week, and I know that you are wishing that too. xoxo

  • commented on Maturity Rising 2018-03-16 08:56:19 -0700
    I love everything about this Mike. You are a good day. You are letting your daughter grow up to be a person with her own thoughts and feelings, while allowing her to ask the sometimes hard or unanswerable questions, that might surely come up.

  • commented on Its Your Birthday, My Heart and Back Know 2018-03-16 08:48:57 -0700
    INDIE – I am sorry you haven’t found that door yet, the one that will make you feel as if you aren’t just simply existing – but actually living again. I can only tell you it took me 6 years to find that feeling, and still now, its very hard some days. I fight for my joy everyday. Its never easy. I hope you wont give up on yourself. When youre exhausted, take breaks. Take emotional breaks to zone out, think about something else, see a funny movie. Then come back to it when you can handle it more. You can reach out to me anytime also. Here. On Facebook, or at my email kelleyiskelley@gmail.com For real. Please don’t give up.

  • commented on New Directions Coming 2018-03-16 08:33:08 -0700
    Im so damn proud of you.

  • commented on Home & The Heart 2018-03-16 08:30:08 -0700
    Finally have somet ime to catchup on blogs. Love this. And I wish that Don could read it, as crazy as that sounds. He and you have so much in common, and he never stopped missing Florida.

  • commented on Half Life 2018-03-16 08:24:32 -0700
    Finally have time to sit and read through some of these blogs. I like this one. ANd I get it. I relate. Also, what exactly would a tragic mayonnaise accident look like? Never mind. I don’t want to know.

  • commented on Resentment and PTSD 2018-02-26 13:04:43 -0800
    thank you both, so much.

  • commented on 100% Chance of Rain 2018-02-23 06:23:41 -0800
    Love this . Ben feeling similar lately. Im 46 – the same age Don was when he suddenly died with no symptoms. Im petrified I wont make it to 47, and I hate even talking about it . Ugh. And like you, I resent it. xoxo

  • commented on Number Eleven 2018-02-23 06:20:05 -0800
    THis is really beautiful and bittersweet, sounds like you did an amazing job at not being an embarassing dad lol

  • commented on Flowers, Cake, and Change 2018-01-21 20:16:56 -0800
    thank you carol. Your words are very kind xoxo

  • commented on The End is Lurking 2018-02-26 13:08:00 -0800
    I think that all the time. “does he know that he died?” ugh.

  • commented on Walking in the Snow 2018-01-13 11:39:42 -0800
    Great visuals Gabe. Love it!

Kelley is a comedian, writer, actor, and speaker living in NYC. She married her soul-mate and best friend Don, in October of 2006. She was 35, and he was 42. Just over four years later, he would die shockingly from a massive heart-attack. Kelley has turne
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