Kelley Lynn commented on It Never Gets Old 2019-04-05 06:56:59 -0700thank you Noreen. widowed people are my best audience. You are my people, my tribe!!! I love doing what I do, and I love coming to camp and relaxing with my friends in the widowed community. ps I dont think your google search was “accidental.” you were meant to find us, to help you find your way xo
Kelley Lynn commented on When Hard Days Come 2019-03-29 12:02:18 -0700I still find Dons birthday to be sooooo hard, because hes dead, and he doesnt get to live life anymore, and there will never be a day where that doesnt depress me, or where I think how unfair it is that he got such a short life span. The way you honor Drew is always so beautiful and so touching. He will live on and on because of who you are, and because you will make it so. Love you xo
Kelley Lynn commented on Self-Caretaking 2019-03-29 11:59:55 -0700Mike thank you for sharing this, it helps me greatly in recognizing signs of depression with people in my own life. I think its great that you are taking care of yourself, and I hope that you find yourself with greater peace because of it.
Kelley Lynn commented on It's a Real Thing. Camp Crash~ 2019-03-29 11:54:15 -0700It was SO awesome connecting with you this time around, attending your workshop, introducing you to my guy, who has been so incredibly supportive – and dancing with you at the banquet!!! I didnt dance a lot, but when I did, you were out there, and it made me smile. I love my widowed family :)
Kelley Lynn commented on Me and the Universe~ 2019-03-14 19:19:06 -0700I love this. Christina is amazing. I met her long ago also, and we have become friends. She is wonderful and very generous and big hearted. I have her new book and its been hard for me to read. I dont know why. I think Im scared to “go there” for some reason, but I have always beleived everything she speaks of. Energy. Love never dies. We are connected forever. All of it. My grief counelor took me through a period during our sessions a couple years ago, where she had me “shift” my relationship with Don from one of husband wife, to one of “forever connected , a beautiful bond, he is your spirit guide.” IT was soooo hard for me, to no longer “feel” married to him , but once I did it, I actualyl felt closer to him than ever before. I cant explain it, but ever since then, I feel him near me ALL THE TIME. Its not nearly as great as having him here on earth with me, but its nine million steps above feeling like he is nowhere, or somewhere where I cant feel him. I feel him right now. He is a part of everything. In some ways, our relationship feels even more profound than ever. I think you will feel that with your Chuck. I really do. I hope this helps.
Kelley Lynn commented on Quality Time 2019-03-14 19:11:49 -0700Time lost feels so heavy after our person dies. I am VERY aware of precious time now, in my current relationship. I totally get it.
Kelley Lynn commented on Accepting Fear 2019-03-14 19:09:33 -0700Don , your comment made me laugh lol. Sarah, I agree that it helps enormously to share with this community and to write it all out . The fears are so real and terrifying, it feels good to just put them somewhere sometimes, instead of hiding or ignoring them.
Kelley Lynn commented on Trauma Triggers: Is This Still a Thing? 2019-03-14 19:07:04 -0700thank you everyone for these very kind comments. The trauma is real, as you all know.
Kelley Lynn commented on Favorite Parent 2019-02-22 07:02:18 -0800This is so cute and I actually had a “tear” while reading about Shelby having a tear. Ha!!! I love that Weird Al is the thing you have in common. How hilariously perfect. I love him also. Hes the best. I bet that concert will be so silly and funny and just all kinds of FUN! Take pics please when you go!!!
Kelley Lynn donated 2018-11-27 17:25:00 -0800
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Kelley Lynn commented on Fire and Rain and Huge Grief Triggers 2018-07-06 19:26:41 -0700Johan, 15 years later, are the grief triggers still there??? Im guessing the answer is YES.
Kelley Lynn commented on PRESSURE 2018-05-29 07:15:46 -0700Hi Linda! And thank you! Yes of course. The book will be available through Amazon once its finished. I will let everyone know!!!
Kelley Lynn commented on The Last Dance 2018-04-10 08:05:59 -0700Dammit Mike. I was fine until that last sentence.
You always get me with the crying…….
ps dry bologna sandwiches sound nasty. They need to do better for the dads!
Kelley Lynn commented on Coffee with Missing Pieces 2018-03-16 09:04:38 -0700Oh man, I totally wish I could hug you in a creepy manner right now, and call you mommy LOL. I don’t know what its like to lose your mom so young in life, or to go through adulthood without your mom or dad – I don’t know what that is – but your beautiful and honest writings about it, have certainly helped me to better understand that feeling of nervousness , of feeling ungrounded. I DO understand so well about hearing a word, such as “mom”, in normal conversation, and having it just wound you, and shine a light on the thing you will never have. I love you, mommy – and I think youre a courageous person. I so wish I could see you next week, and I know that you are wishing that too. xoxo
Kelley Lynn commented on Maturity Rising 2018-03-16 08:56:19 -0700I love everything about this Mike. You are a good day. You are letting your daughter grow up to be a person with her own thoughts and feelings, while allowing her to ask the sometimes hard or unanswerable questions, that might surely come up.
Kelley Lynn commented on Its Your Birthday, My Heart and Back Know 2018-03-16 08:48:57 -0700INDIE – I am sorry you haven’t found that door yet, the one that will make you feel as if you aren’t just simply existing – but actually living again. I can only tell you it took me 6 years to find that feeling, and still now, its very hard some days. I fight for my joy everyday. Its never easy. I hope you wont give up on yourself. When youre exhausted, take breaks. Take emotional breaks to zone out, think about something else, see a funny movie. Then come back to it when you can handle it more. You can reach out to me anytime also. Here. On Facebook, or at my email email@example.com For real. Please don’t give up.
Kelley Lynn commented on Home & The Heart 2018-03-16 08:30:08 -0700Finally have somet ime to catchup on blogs. Love this. And I wish that Don could read it, as crazy as that sounds. He and you have so much in common, and he never stopped missing Florida.
Soon after the sudden death of my husband, almost 8 years ago now, I began trying to navigate my new reality and world that I never asked for or wanted.
I didnt know what the hell I was doing.
There are no guidelines or handbook for how to "widow" properly. I hadn't even put away all of our dishes and kitchen items and gifts from a few years prior, when we got married. Things were still in boxes. We were talking about having a family, moving out of Jersey, things that married people talk about in the first few years of their marriage. I hadnt even begun to figure out the rest of our life together, and now, I was left to figure out how to cope with my husband and my world and my future being dead?
I didnt know how to do that.
Looking back now, I see that I made a lot of mistakes.
I made a lot of mistakes that I will now call "grief mistakes."
I am probably still making them, but hopefully way less often.
Sharing a few of these mistakes and lessons with my grief community may be helpful or beneficial for some to read.
Lately, Im feeling a strangeness that is stranger than my normal daily strange.
I keep finding ways to make you feel closer.
Its like, I cant seem to find a way for you to feel close to me, nearby, present, in the way that I want.
Maybe it's because Im in a happy and loving relationship, and Im feeling delayed thoughts of guilt for that.
Or sadness, that you and I never got to this place.
This place of planning out a place to live together (you moved right into my apartment, and you died before we could ever move anywhere else.)
This place of coming into our older years, and thinking about things such as retirement and our long-term futures. Saving money so we will be okay.
I don't know what it is, honestly.
But lately, I feel this overwhelming and heavy sadness, that you are not here.
And Im finding it harder to feel you here, in the ways in which I normally DO feel you here.
What was once natural, now feels like a struggle, lately.
To conjure you up in my heart, and feel that few moments of comfort from the knowing that you still exist somehow.
I still know it.
But I am having trouble connecting to it, feeling it.
Is this what happens when too much time goes by?
Is this distance going to get further and further away?
I sure hope not.Read more