Marty Tousley

  • commented on We Didn't Win 2017-11-13 10:55:55 -0800
    I want to thank you, Wendy, for letting others know through your honest writing how grief at the death of her father has impacted your daughter. I wish we could add to our schools’ curricula a class on How to Support A Fellow Student in Mourning. Your story would add so much understanding to such a lesson plan. I’m so sorry that the house drawing added yet another loss to your already too-long list ~ but grateful that your daughter has such an understanding mom. I agree with Gayle ~ I too hope that you can find a peer support group for her. ♥

  • commented on I Get It Now, and I'm Sorry 2017-10-01 14:14:56 -0700
    Your honesty and your insights take my breath away, Kelley. Yet another terrific piece. Thank you ♥

  • commented on It Must Have Superpowers 2017-09-18 10:45:03 -0700
    Wendy, I love what you’ve said, and you had me until I came to this statement: “Although, as I’ve mentioned before, it is most certainly greater than those who lost a pet. I will stand behind that statement forever.” As I wrote in my post, “Is Pet Loss Comparable to Loss of A Loved One,” as a grief counselor, it is not my place to tell another what he or she is “allowed” to love, nor is it my place to pass judgment on that person’s attachments. Grief happens following all sorts of losses—not just death. We grieve the loss of a limb, for example, when a leg is amputated, or the loss of a job we’ve loved, or the loss of our family home when it and everything in it burns to the ground. A pet who has died may be the only friend we had in this world—or if we are living with a disability, that animal may have been our helper or even our eyes or our ears. Whatever the role a pet played in our lives, if we are deeply attached to an animal companion, we will grieve long and hard when that animal dies. Like any other loss, pet loss is real and for some, extremely painful. Is it different from human loss? Certainly. But that does not mean that it is not worthy of grief, and it does not mean that the bereaved animal lover should feel ashamed of his need for our compassion, understanding, and support. ♥

  • commented on A Toast to Drew 2016-03-30 10:20:42 -0700
    Awesome post. Just awesome. What a terrific couple you are, and so fortunate to have found each other. Megan and Drew must be thrilled.

  • commented on Re-claiming a Simple Pleasure 2016-03-26 19:58:22 -0700
    I so appreciate your writing this article, Rebecca, and I thank you for acknowledging the dangers of using alcohol in the early days of grief. Good for you in your efforts to tune in to yourself, notice where you are now and recognize your own progress in re-claiming control of your life and your body! I’ve added a link to your post at the base of my own, “Mixing Grief with Alcohol: Will It Lead to Addiction?” here:

  • commented on All I Can Be, For Now 2016-01-24 06:31:28 -0800
    Rebecca, my dear, I respect and admire your courage for admitting these (totally human and completely understandable) thoughts to yourself and for sharing them so openly with the rest of us. I’ve added a link to your piece at the base of my own blog post, “In Grief: Acknowledging Jealousy and Anger,” here:

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