Gayle Goldberg

  • commented on This Pink Anniversary 2018-07-05 05:14:25 -0700
    “You don’t have to wait to feel better to do whatever it is you think you might want to do. You don’t have to wait til you’re not as sad as you are now. You don’t have to wait for anyone’s approval.

    You just pack every damn bit of that stuff up in a suitcase and take it with you."

    Yes! This, exactly! Thank you.

  • commented on The Wax and the Wayne 2018-07-02 05:28:18 -0700
    I’m so sorry. Everything is so recent for you. Hang in there, and be gentle with yourself.

  • commented on Navigating My New Normal 2018-06-19 05:58:48 -0700
    One of the best pieces of advice I received early on was “Be gentle with yourself.” It’s very early in your grief and I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you find the support you need here, and from your family and friends.

  • commented on 1273 2018-05-16 05:37:21 -0700
    This is perfect!

  • commented on Back to Fear-Facing 2018-05-07 05:50:55 -0700
    I’m reading a book right now called “My Year With Eleanor” by Noelle Hancock. The author read Eleanor Roosevelt’s quote to do one scary thing every day, and decided to do it for a year, and then wrote a memoir about it.

  • commented on My Mind; My Power 2018-05-04 11:23:06 -0700
    Be gentle with yourself. You are grieving. I remember the second year being even harder than the first, and it wasn’t until after the third year that I started to feel like myself again.

  • commented on Make Your Past 2018-04-18 07:29:57 -0700
    This is such an interesting way to think of “moving forward”. Thank you.

  • commented on The Colors of Love 2018-03-19 11:01:06 -0700
    Yes, yes, and yes again! You described this experience so well. Thank you.

  • commented on Vulnerability 2018-03-16 12:14:47 -0700
    Thank you for the courage you are taking, sharing your thoughts and emotions.

  • commented on The Me in the We 2018-02-15 06:16:01 -0800
    Thank you for sharing your story. Welcome to the club none of us wanted to join.

  • commented on Facade 2018-02-05 05:49:18 -0800
    The second year was the hardest for me. In the first year, there was still a lot of shock and looking back to the previous happy year. But the second year, the brunt of the grief hit me, even though I was living my life and even started a wonderful new relationship. The only helpful advice I have, which was given to me at the time by another widow, is “You won’t always feel the way you do now.”

  • commented on Aloha and Mahalo 2018-02-01 06:32:07 -0800
    I will miss reading your words. Thank you.

  • commented on As this Odyssey of Love Expands~ 2017-12-14 06:20:27 -0800
    #saytheirname – Kenneth Rostkowski

    This is a beautiful, loving gift.

  • commented on Who Am I ? 2017-12-11 10:55:00 -0800
    Welcome to the club none of us wanted to join. Thank you for writing.

  • commented on I Still Look For Him 2017-12-04 07:19:57 -0800
    Wishing you strength and peace. It’s been over 10 years for me, and I’m happily remarried, and still google my late husband’s name every so often. This time of year is hard for many of us, and the second year was the hardest year for me. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Hope that your surgery and recovery are smooth and that you will be gentle with yourself.

  • commented on Present and Accounted For 2017-11-20 05:16:56 -0800
    We all appreciate support, whether we “need” it or not. I’m sorry about your friend. Hope you can find support and friendship in other places.

  • commented on Stress 2017-11-20 05:05:01 -0800
    A very wise widow once reminded me “You won’t always feel the way you do now.” and it’s advice that has helped me through many rough moments/days/weeks. I hope you can find support in many places – both online and in person, as you get through the next weeks. Wishing you peace.

  • commented on We Didn't Win 2017-11-13 05:53:11 -0800
    I’m so sorry. I hope you can find a support group, either in-person or online, for your daughter. Knowing you are not the only one going through something is important for all of us, and especially important for a teenage girl who already feels abandoned by her friends.

  • commented on Damn the Torpedoes 2017-10-25 09:19:00 -0700
    Wow – this is great!

  • commented on Junk Mail - Repost 2017-09-28 07:54:28 -0700
    I still get mail addressed to my late husband, even though I’ve moved to a different state and he never lived at my current address. It’s been over 10 years and it still stings every time.