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  • commented on Family Vacation 2019-10-10 07:40:18 -0700
    I’m sorry you had to hear those ignorant comments. People often speak before they think. Depending on the situation, you could say exactly what you wrote in response – “Being a solo parent and a widow is not an easy road to travel”. Or something like “I could have lived the rest of my life without hearing that.” Or sometimes just a look is enough.
    Glad you were able to see your daughter enjoying herself!

  • commented on Magical Music 2019-10-03 06:34:55 -0700
    That song is both beautiful and haunting. Good for Megan that she is able to express herself so well, and share it with others.
    As a wise widow told me when I was new on this widowed journey, Be gentle with yourself.

  • commented on A Scary Reality 2019-09-27 06:52:05 -0700
    I’m sorry you have to deal with this in addition to everything else. I think grief changes our bodies in addition to our emotions and everything else. Please take care of yourself, get second opinions, and find as much support as you can.

  • commented on La Rentrée 2019-09-04 08:23:28 -0700
    Although I have lost a husband, I have never lost a child and I can only imagine the longing you express.Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Your writing is beautiful.

  • commented on The Stress of Being Stressed 2019-08-23 06:15:45 -0700
    Wishing you peace. Be gentle with yourself.

  • commented on Beauty and Darkness 2019-08-08 05:10:11 -0700
    Welcome to the club that none of us wanted to join. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • commented on A Change of Heart 2019-08-06 05:57:52 -0700
    I always hated the word acceptance. I know he is gone, and I believe it, and deal with it, but it’s unacceptable that someone so filled with life is gone forever.

  • commented on My Final Self-Reflection 2019-08-02 10:36:57 -0700
    I wish you all the best, and hope that you are able to find people to connect with in regards to grief. I found a community of widows that helped quite a bit when I was newly widowed. I think it is harder for men, but hope that you will reach out for, and find, connection.

  • commented on Sometimes the Scary Thing Brings the Most Support - Sharing 2019-07-01 09:10:44 -0700
    Beautiful. As Kelley Lynn says, Love Grows Love.

  • commented on Numbers Again~ 2019-06-05 08:37:58 -0700
    Here’s to Love, and to you and Chuck! I’m now 10 years older than my first husband ever got to be. He’s been gone more than 12 years. I’m very happily remarried, living a great life, and still miss him and think of him every day. Love never dies.

  • commented on Widowing and Renaisance Faires 2019-03-06 05:18:57 -0800
    Professional mourner??!! We need more info, please! And photos!

  • commented on Oh, the Road of Crazy~ 2016-04-13 09:54:27 -0700
    The anticipation of each anniversary is usually the worst time for me, too. When I get to the point you’re describing (and I still do occasionally, even though it’s been over 9 years and I am happily remarried), I remind myself not to think about what might happen or where to go from here, but to focus only on what to do in the immediate moment. These are the times that you can’t even think about taking life day to day, it really needs to be just moment to moment, or even breath to breath.

    Be gentle with yourself.