Sharon Moriarty

  • commented on Grief and Insomnia 2020-01-18 12:00:54 -0800
    Yes life is precious and each moment is holy and sacred seen rightly. You never know when it is the last encounter you will have with a person. Sometimes I think the only thing that will heal me is when someone figures a way to turn that Urn of ashes in my bedroom back into my significant other. Of course most of his ashes now are buried at Sea. I guess at least I have someone very special now in The Kingdom of Spirit rooting for me and watching over. It will make my own death easier to take! Of course he would want me to live fully until then, to be fearless and to celebrate life.

  • commented on Divine Dimes 2020-01-18 11:40:29 -0800
    I have been finding lots of pennies in the most unexpected places. Right in my path walking along the road for example. I know it is my significant other reaching out to me. Today is the six month anniversary of his crossing. He loved pennies and kept books of them and had almost every year going back to the early 1900s’

  • commented on Wounds that Never Close 2020-01-12 11:00:58 -0800
    Society pressures us to move on and bring closure to our grief and it is particularly orchestrated by those who have never experienced grief. All those hurtful platitudes for example highlights the general state of ignorance. But grief is just another face of love. Love that has become difficult to express because the other is no longer physically present. There is no end to grief just as there is no end to love. Yes the grief will change as time and experience brings new perspectives. Keep the wounds open because the wounds are a source of renewal. They will make you more empathic, human and real. To deny them or attempt to close them is to dry up spiritually. Yes pain is in those wounds but also love. Do not throw out the baby with the bath water.

  • commented on Current State...Confusion~ 2020-01-08 05:49:56 -0800
    Anxiety is a fear based emotion. So if you believe in the power of Love to solve all. How can you feel anxiety? Love trusts in God’s Will to set all things right. Anxiety means you don’t trust!

  • commented on Acceptance 2020-01-06 21:15:42 -0800
    It is now almost six months and I feel sadder now than ever. There is no end to the pain. I look forward to the end of my life. I want to go to my doctors in two days and have her diagnose me with an EOL condition.

  • commented on The Ghosts of Christmas Past , Present and Future 2019-12-21 19:06:16 -0800
    Yes all the awkward excuses can be so discomforting on both sides. I am sorry for your situation and can relate to how you feel. I was hoping to have a quiet reflective Christmas and drive down the coast and bury my spouses ashes in Half Moon Bay, Carmel and Big Sur. But then my twin got himself into a pickle with his crazy heroin addicted wife and so I have to fly to the East Coast and BWI. And of course he is too afraid to fly. So I have to take him back on that miserable 3 or 4 day train ride back across the US of A.

  • commented on Bah Humbug 2019-12-18 13:47:06 -0800
    Merry Christmas Emma, Ben and Megan and especially to Mike and Julia.

  • commented on White Christmas 2019-12-16 16:41:19 -0800
    You’ve said it all Staci. You really have said it all.

  • commented on What Was and What Is 2019-12-15 14:16:35 -0800
    Hi Jenny, Got your insight and perspective and it is good not to be judgmental. I am newly bereaved and I speak from my heart with honesty. So if that hurts I cannot do anything about it. Also I am an Engineer trained to analyze data so when someone is obsessing 8 and a half years later, it means they haven’t healed. Not that I expect them to. Just being open and honest and yes I have no tact.

  • commented on I Will Always Wonder 2019-12-12 17:15:00 -0800
    He would have still wrote you beautiful cards and love notes and found you even more beautiful as you aged. Your lives together were locked in time. He could not avoid his Destiny, neither can you. But please know he has his freedom and peace.

  • commented on And So it Begins~ 2019-12-11 14:43:26 -0800
    Love and Grief are the same thing. Unless you love you cannot grieve. Grief is the inexpressible unconditional Love in tangible form because the loved is no longer physically there. I hope this movie brings you some healing and redemption. But going within is to me the Golden Highway to Peace. All external forms of grief mitigation are just a childish game.

  • commented on Talking to Fear 2019-12-08 10:36:10 -0800
    We have no control, just the illusion of control. Your fear derives from trying to control outcomes. My Mum used to say “What is meant for you won’t pass you by” Sadly she passed last year and so our fifty year connection was over just like that. Feel the Fear and do it anyway. At the end of your life, I didn’t go on all those adventures to Yellowstone and elsewhere because fear controlled my destiny? I was in Yellowstone three years back and my SO had a choking fit at a noodle restaurant on the way back and almost died. Had to bring him to emergency and I was in the middle of nowhere. That was the first sign of his neurological illness, dysphasia and now he has passed forward. He went through 3 years of hell and hundreds of appointments and a feeding tube that last year but he kept on getting up and not once felt sorry for himself. And then he ceased upon the midnight hour with no pain and with me by his side.

  • commented on Happy Birthday to Me 2019-12-06 12:20:53 -0800
    Hi Staci, I am recently bereaved. My significant other passed away in July and I was with him till the end. It was the Midnight Hour on a hot summer night and my soul was dark for forty days until I saw our first Thunderstorm and felt his presence again. Then I got the inspiration to read from A Course in Miracles and found this passage which brought me Peace.

    “ In the Holy Instant the condition of love is met, for minds are joined without the body’s interference and where there is communication there is peace. The Prince of Peace was born to re-establish the condition of love by teaching that communication remains unbroken even if the body is destroyed, Provided that you see not the body as the necessary means of communication. And if understand this lesson, you will realize that to sacrifice the body is to sacrifice nothing and communication, which must be of the mind, cannot be sacrificed. The lesson I was born to teach, and still would teach to all my brothers, is that sacrifice is nowhere and love is everywhere. For communication embraces everything , and in the peace it re-establishes, love comes of itself.”

  • commented on It's About Time 2019-12-05 22:39:07 -0800
    Tragic! That is the only word for it. Time stands still at the moment of Bereavement. Keats wrote in his Ode to a Nightingale “ Now more than ever seems it Rich to die. To cease upon The midnight with no pain” And my love passed away at midnight and I was right there next to him to ensure he had no pain. It was an honor and a privilege to me.