Robert Frumkin commented on The White Rabbit 2019-01-05 20:09:04 -0800Hey Bryan,
I lost my wife to Ovarian Cancer Thanksgiving day 2018, so about six weeks ago. Being six weeks out from this, I know, I know nothing. But I do know this, tramatic experiences change us, whether we like it or not. We really don’t have much choice in the matter. Probably the worst thing we can do is try to squeeze ourselves back into our pre widowed self somehow because no matter how hard we try, we’ll never fit. How have I gathered all this wisdom in 7 weeks? Because unfortunately, I have had to rebuild my life before. We like easy and there’s nothing easy about it. We like a quick fix and there’s nothing quick about it. We adjust somehow over time and add things to our life. We gather tools for living and use them to build something for ourselves. We dig deep for strength and resilance we never knew we had. We help ourselves because we have to, the other choices are just too bleak. God, goodness, karma, the universe or whatever you call devine power helps those that help themselves, that’s all I know. So help yourself as much as possible and the rest will somehow fall into place.
Robert Frumkin commented on Growth, Change, and New Opportunities 2019-01-05 19:40:34 -0800Hi Olivia,
Life changes and relationships change. If you find your not getting what you need from an old friendship, let it go. Only you know what you do and do not need. I’ve given up trying to be what other peopke think I should be to serve their purpise. It’s not being mean or selfish, just honest. As we grow, we carry some relationships with us and let others go, we evolve in our own search for contentment. Keep on grow’n…
Robert Frumkin commented on The Miracle of a Well-Lived Life 2018-12-31 12:24:10 -0800Take what you need and leave the rest, you know? 12 Step groups teach great life lessons to carry with you as you move foward. I heard someone once suggest, “When your life changes, don’t look back to find yourself, it very likely your not that person anymore…”
makes sense to me. Why go back to the swamp when you can create a beautiful lake to sit beside – even if your the only one there for awhile….
Robert Frumkin commented on Building My Wings 2018-12-31 12:05:51 -0800You go Sarah – you carry that love and support with you onward and upward.
My wife Judy passed away Thanksgiving day 2018. She gave my life wings over the years to carry on and go places I never thought I’d be. As I’ve heard it said say “you go girl”