Karen Lawrence

  • commented on What Now?... 2019-11-10 17:56:36 -0800
    Seven years for me and I too have no answers. I have supportive friends and family, a job I love but I’m still so empty inside.

  • commented on The Stress of Being Stressed 2019-08-30 17:10:05 -0700
    You have been such a help and comfort to me with your book and your posts. I really hope things work out for you with whatever is going on. Wishing you comfort and peace. And thank you for continuing to share your journey with us. I hope you realize what an impact your words have on us.

  • commented on Nightmares Now and Then 2019-08-30 08:49:19 -0700
    I too had dreams about my husband leaving me the first year after he died and they too had nothing to do with the way he died (cancer). I would wake up crying after dreams where he was leaving me for someone else. I agreed with you about the mind trying to process the trauma. It’s been 7 years years for me as well and I haven’t dreamed about him for a while- both a blessing and a curse I guess. Hoping your nightmares cease very soon. Restful sleep is hard enough for many widows to find.

  • commented on Removed 2019-08-24 11:55:05 -0700
    I agree. You have such a perfect way of putting into print exactly what I’m thinking and/or have experienced. There is a small amount of comfort in knowing I’m not alone in my experiences. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

  • commented on In Between ... 2019-08-06 19:49:10 -0700
    Truth. In four days it will be 7 years for me. You have such a gift for putting thoughts and feelings into words and how I wish I didn’t so completely understand them.

  • commented on Paying Grief Forward 2019-08-01 00:16:56 -0700
    Thank you for your beautiful words. You inspire me. I’m definitely still a work in progress. Coming up on 7 years in 10 days. Not happy with who I am yet, but working on it.

  • commented on Underpinnings 2019-07-25 09:47:01 -0700
    I too am trying to rebuild my life. It’s been 7 years and it’s been a lot of one step forward and several steps back. I know at times I’m too hard on myself and it’s a lot of exhausting work. Sometimes it’s overwhelming and I find I can’t do anything. I’m hoping to have more forward motion and fewer steps backwards in the future. Good luck to you!

  • commented on Widow Tired 2019-07-22 19:03:22 -0700
    Thank you for this. I really wish I didn’t so completely understand and relate to what you’re saying here. As a teacher, I have summers off, but July is when we were married and August is when he died. I find myself in such a funk during the summer that I don’t end up accomplishing all the projects I need to do in my time off. After 7 years, I know I need to push myself a bit harder because no one else is going to do any of this for me, but as you said, it’s all so exhausting. Good luck to all of us.

  • commented on Another Sunday 2019-07-19 17:21:54 -0700
    This. So this.

  • commented on Normalish 2019-07-15 18:02:47 -0700
    Oh how I wish I didn’t understand and identify with what you’re saying here. It’s been almost 7 years now and I feel stuck. As an elementary music teacher I have the summer off, but July is the month of our wedding anniversary and he died in August. Summer is when I have the time to do all the projects I can’t get to during the school year, but I find myself kind of paralyzed and unable to find motivation to do anything. It’s so frustrating.

  • commented on The E.R. and July 2019-07-14 22:53:14 -0700
    Wow. Just wow. Hugs to you and prayers for no more trips to the ER. Your book has meant so much to me. Thanks so much for sharing your stories.

  • commented on You Feel Far Away 2019-07-03 17:15:52 -0700
    Almost 7 years for me. I so completely understand everything you wrote here. Tough time of year for me. July is the month of our wedding anniversary and August was the month he died. Definitely taints the feeling of summer.

  • commented on This Uncertain Terrain~ 2019-07-02 17:03:47 -0700
    How I wish I didn’t understand this so well.

  • commented on Summer Has a Feel ... 2019-06-30 19:48:36 -0700
    7 years in August for me. I have summers off (public school elementary music teacher) and used to love summer vacation. While I’m glad to have the time off to recharge, most of the joy is gone. Doesn’t help that our wedding anniversary is in July. There’s so much I need to get done around the house and yard but I find myself still overwhelmed/paralyzed because there used to be two of us to handle everything. Ugh.

  • commented on Thinking, and Overthinking~ 2019-06-26 17:28:24 -0700
    I have been thinking so much lately about exactly what you wrote here. And I mean exactly what you wrote here. I’m coming up on 7 years in about a month and a half. I really hope I can be happy again on my own and not have to partner up to feel that lightness again. I’m so conflicted. I was so happy with my late husband and really have no desire to date, but am afraid I may never be truly happy alone. As you said, it’s all so frickin’ exhausting.

  • commented on Empty Act 2019-06-11 18:18:44 -0700
    “We are not “okay”, but we aren’t altogether not okay. We just are.” So perfectly said. I’m glad my friends don’t understand this yet, but it’s also so hard that they don’t get it. I’m at almost 7 years and while the grief has gotten softer, it’s always still there. The loss of our shared past and the future we’ll never have is ever present.

  • commented on Strongish at Best 2019-06-05 19:29:39 -0700
    2 days ago I was talking/complaining about the multitasking situation and having to do all the work two of us used to do with my also widowed hairstylist. And I can totally relate to feeling okayish. And most of the time I’m tired of being strong.

  • commented on "By Now..." 2019-06-05 19:12:33 -0700
    It will be 7 years for me in August and I can totally relate to thinking I’d somehow have it more together by now. I too miss the fearless person I used to be.

  • commented on Tightrope Walker 2019-06-03 21:43:54 -0700
    Thank you. It’s somehow comforting to read in print what I think in my head but don’t have the words to say. Walking a tightrope is a perfect analogy.

  • commented on Where Are You Mike? 2019-05-21 21:46:02 -0700
    Well said. I’m a little over 6 & 1/2 years and it still sucks. Still hard to believe after all this time.