• commented on Missing Him on 40 2018-05-10 11:28:34 -0700
    Live the love that he left behind for me! I am pondering that. All at once counting what Russ left behind for me. He was so concerned that I would not have enough to live on. Having him is what I had always lived on!!

  • commented on Back to Fear-Facing 2018-05-10 10:55:45 -0700
    I so get what you are saying! Especially the waking up each day alone. Married and crazy in love for 53 years. Got married at sixteen. So miss his physical presence!!!!

  • commented on Pretty Lucky 2018-05-10 10:17:07 -0700
    I thank God he has sent you someone so special. But don’t forget how special you are to attract someone like that. I am very much older than you, but about the same time widowed. Oh Lord how i hate that tag! I was married a very long time and thought I would gracefully accept being alone with my lovely memories . Oh boy surprise to me is the realization that i am not! Huge conflicting emotions. I have a need to be loved like that again, and I want to give my love again with my whole self! I rejoice for you and your new love.

  • commented on I Must Write of This, Because~ 2018-02-25 07:46:52 -0800
    LOVE IS STRONGER THAN DEATH! " Songs of Soloman" I have this written on my mirror in lipstick!

  • commented on Why I Smile 2018-02-25 07:31:31 -0800
    You put a smile on my face! Yes I too am able to smile again sometimes. Love your picture. Hugs

  • commented on Damn the Torpedoes 2017-10-27 14:40:46 -0700
    This made me smile with hope! ☺

  • commented on And So it Must Always Be~ 2017-10-05 09:08:33 -0700
    Thank you for having the words that I can not find! Is my intense longing for my husband ever going to be less agonizing? It will be a year since his last breath our breath.

  • commented on Triangles and Shapes and Pillows~ 2017-09-15 11:22:06 -0700
    Hi Alison,
    Thank you so much for your sharing your raw and tender experience. It took me awhile to send my comment because I wanted to be sure to honor your continuing love for your husband. I was married for 53 years I give thanks for those many years shared with a most wonderful man, but I would have liked 53 more. Unrealistic yes but love is eternal! Also why are people so very uncomfortable about sharing the pain of their physical loss?

  • commented on Counting Life 2017-09-15 11:01:24 -0700
    I am delighted for you! You know from loss of love that it is the only thing that makes life really worth living. Yes there are all kinds of love. Love for God, children, family and friends. But only you know the value of intimate love In your life with all its facets.

  • commented on An Honest Love Letter: Saint-Onge style 2017-09-11 15:36:19 -0700
    Wendy, thank you so much for sharing your love letter to Ben. It was beautiful and profound. Your comment about the real you took my breath away. I told my grief counselor that I feel like my real me is what I was with my husband! I also experienced being loved softer the months before he passed away. This I hold in my heart as a great and precious treasure. God bless

  • commented on Simple Words, Again. 2017-09-06 14:09:17 -0700
    I dont know how long it has been since your husband passed and I am so very sorry for your loss! Today is eleven months to the date of my husbands passing. Your words say it all! Nothing left to say only only our broken hearts, longing and tears.

  • commented on Here I Stand 2017-08-10 10:33:10 -0700
    So sorry for the loss of your friend. I also am trying to learn to live alone. Had a sweet marriage to a dear man. I have been trying to figure out the nagging feeling I have had. You named it so very clearly. Being left behind!! I am suppose to be with him. What happened??

  • commented on How Are You 2018-12-31 13:19:30 -0800
    Dear Barbara,
    I am so sorry the love of your life is no longer with you. I was married 53 years to the love of my life also. Married this man when I was only sixteen years old. To say we were joined at the hip was no exaggeration. So I get you. It has been two years and two months since he died. The early grief is so raw and painful it just can’t be described. It does get more bearable if you get help. I joined a grief support group and I see a private grief counselor once a week that Medicare pays for. Seems like i needed lots of help to keep living? You bet i did and still do. No apologies here. Just survival!!!!

  • commented on Grief Travels 2017-07-15 10:10:49 -0700
    Wow! Just attended a new grief support group and said to the facilitator that no one ever tells you when you marry how to prepare to say goodbye. Unless the Lord takes you both home at the same time one of you will be left alone! I also experience the same feelings that you have had when I try to do something new. It makes me miss my husband more. You are very brave to be taking this trip alone! I know he is so very proud of you!!

  • commented on Say Goodbye to the Fridge 2017-07-08 09:50:25 -0700
    Just read your thoughts today. This is my first July 4 the without my husband. That line about the longer its been since they died the more you miss them is the truth in my life! I don’t think if I miss him more I can tolerate it. I am a belie er, so I have the comfort that I will see him again. However that fact does not help the longing to be with him now and everyday. I have not had an easy life so I know what pain is. But I really did not know you could be in this much emotional pain and still be alive!!! I see a greif counselor and can share my thoughts with her so it keeps me from going over the edge, barely! I am so sorry for your loss. I hate to think how you suffer.

  • commented on Return To Me~ 2017-06-15 10:07:13 -0700
    Profound and raw. I love your truth. They are physically missed and the desire to have them back is agonising!