Don Yacona

  • commented on Boilerplate Questions 2019-04-23 11:08:49 -0700
    I have shouldas. Should have argued with her more to go to the doctor. Shoulda dragged her to the doctor. Shoulda done more research into why her walking was being compromised. Shoulda shoulda shoulda.

  • commented on Numbers and Changing Lives~ 2019-04-10 05:07:44 -0700
    Alison, what you do is an inspiration. I will be at 4 years on June 10th and today is day 1400 or month 46 if you prefer. I wish i could do what you’ve been doing.

  • commented on The Guessing Game 2019-04-05 11:20:25 -0700
    I believe they still walk with us. A few months ago, I was standing at the kitchen sink, ,and I felt her come up behind me, giving me a hug and laying her head on my shoulder, like I had done so many times to her.

  • commented on Time and Wishing~ 2019-04-03 11:14:42 -0700
    I’ve never thought of using the day she passed as the begining of the new year, but it kinda fits. I also have an app that tells me how many days (1394).

    I have to ask though, how will you get Pink Magic to Scotland? (Awesome idea btw)

  • commented on Everything but the Kitchen Sink 2019-04-01 11:16:56 -0700
    I miss it so much.

  • commented on Self-Caretaking 2019-03-26 11:22:47 -0700
    You sound like me as far as grumpy is concerned. I was Arlene’s first soul caregiver, then lead caregiver after her and her sister reconciled, I’ve always made grumpy into an artform, she used to tell me that I always look angry and that I never smile in pictures. I was long-term unemployed and robbing my 401k during the first half of her illness and the buildup to it just to keep a roof over our heads, then we were trying to recover from Hurricane Sandy when things came to head. I’m coming up on 4 years in June, I think I’ll just stay grumpy, it works for me. Besides, giving “the look” at appropriate times is a powerful weapon.

  • commented on When Their Truth Hits 2019-03-25 11:15:22 -0700
    I’ve never had a visitor in the almost 4 years since Arlene passed. I never get an invite for a beer, a cup of coffee or even a text or phone call. Its as if social media has taken the place of personal interaction. If I do see people that I know, its thru widowed meetup groups. Thats it. I hate this “life”.

  • commented on It Gets Softer 2019-03-15 11:20:18 -0700
    Since at almost 4 years (in June) I am now considered a veteran (YIKES!), whenever I come across a newly widowed person and they ask me if it gets better, I always say no, softer, but there will be times when it will spike and spike HARD.

  • commented on Accepting Fear 2019-03-11 11:29:11 -0700
    In my case, the other shoe drops so often you’d think its tap dancing

  • commented on Widowing and Renaisance Faires 2019-03-06 11:13:17 -0800
    PROFESSIONAL MOURNER? Hey if you do the one in Tuxedo NY this year and need a sidekick for a day or two….lets just say I’ve had experience.

  • commented on Grief. Secondarily~ 2019-02-27 11:14:38 -0800
    I miss it all

  • commented on A Hallmark Heartbreak Kind of Holiday 2019-02-11 14:59:22 -0800
    I can’t tell you how much I HATE February 14th. Social media is going to be very hard that day and I would advise you to stay away from it. When I pass all the V-day stuff in store or in people’s windows now, I just mutter two words which are NOT Happy Birthday. Just saying.

  • commented on A Life Unfinished ... 2019-02-08 15:07:13 -0800
    Right where I am these days. Thank you

  • commented on Exclamations and Tildes~ 2019-01-23 11:07:56 -0800
    !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Is that enough?

  • commented on This is Getting Old 2019-01-14 11:17:42 -0800
    This “life” sucks

  • commented on Inside the Rhythms of the Music 2019-01-11 11:15:34 -0800
    Wonderful as always

  • commented on Wandering~ 2019-01-09 11:08:36 -0800
    Arlene passed on June 10th, 2015. I have always marked the 10th of each month by bringing her white roses to the cemetery and posting a white rose on her facebook. I used to be able to count how many months its been, but lately, because so much time has gone by, I had to think about how many months its been, I was doing that today.

    I have my own version of the nasty old woman dressed in black, sort of a combination Walt Kawolski and Fred Sanford..“Get off my lawn you big dummy”. Hey it works.

  • commented on Growth, Change, and New Opportunities 2019-01-04 11:15:34 -0800
    Thats what I’ve tried to do for the last three years. I listen to different music now, done different things, I’ve made five bucketlist trips, on my own I might add. She’d be amazed at everything I’ve done. It just makes me incredibly sad that she didnt share in them. Nothing I can do about that.

  • commented on All the Things We Didnt Do 2019-01-04 11:11:36 -0800
    Turning shoulda dones with our late spouses into gotta do’s for us now.

  • commented on One Box 2018-12-22 08:15:00 -0800
    This is wonderful Kelly. I’m so happy for you that you found Nick, he sounds like a great guy (for a Red Sox fan, j/k) and it is my wish for you and him, that that one box becomes the first of what will eventually become a warehouse full of boxes. With room for Don’s of course.

    Merry Christmas