Don Yacona

  • commented on Time Waits For No One 2017-06-04 08:02:24 -0700
    I totally understand. The second anniversary of Arlene’s Heart attack and stroke was Friday and none of my relatives even acknowledged it, I have my doubts that they will on Saturday when I pass the two year mark. I havent been able to bring myself to empty her closet or the drawers in her dresser that i havent taken over yet. All I can say is that this truly sucks and people whomhavent gone thru it cannot even begin to understand.

  • commented on Hello, Dead Husband .... 2017-05-12 11:43:08 -0700
    BRAVO!

  • commented on Kelley Lynn at TedX 2017-03-31 08:09:15 -0700
    Good luck

  • commented on Cake and Beer 2017-03-28 11:26:46 -0700
    I can’t tell you how AWESOME this is! For all parties involved. From the bottom of my heart…brav-OH!

  • commented on Oh, the Shame! On THEM~ 2016-12-14 14:38:49 -0800
    BRAVO! People who have never walked this path will never know how hard it is.

  • commented on I have to go home 2016-11-24 19:47:02 -0800
    I understand the pain of leaving someone you love in a facility. My Girlfriend/Partner, in her last 30 months had 4 stays in 3 different rehabs and each time, it ripped my heart out when I would get her set up in her room and have to leave her there at night or in the morning before I had to leave for work.

  • commented on 4 Things to Note about Dating a Widow/er 2016-11-01 14:58:34 -0700
    This was great! I have no interest in the “D” word and I avoid articles like this like the plague, but I really liked this one. Anybody have any Boone’s Farm?

  • commented on Its My Anniversary, and My Husband Is Dead 2016-10-28 14:54:35 -0700
    There are so many things I want to say about this and how perfect it is that I just cant. This is not the life we thought we were going to have. Fate, of whaever you want to call it smacked us with a sledge and said “No, you don’t get this life!”.

  • commented on My Two-ish Selves~ 2016-09-14 09:52:44 -0700
    This is totally me. I funtion because I have to, not because I want to. When people ask me how I’m coping, or comment that I seem to be coping well, my answer is that I’m ok as long as I’m around or interacting with people. I’m not sure if they really get what it is to come home to a now empty house, have to cook for one when I used to cook for two, talk out loud to someone who is their only in spirit and to visit the love of your life at the cemetary as I do each morning.

  • commented on My Davy Jones Moment 2016-09-03 12:47:12 -0700
    This one was so awesome. Thanks for writing it.

  • commented on This Silent Companion~ 2016-08-10 17:01:41 -0700
    So powerful

  • commented on The Tsunami of July 2016-07-02 09:29:49 -0700
    True in every sense of the word. For me it extends from Arlene’s birthday in May, thru the three anniversaries in June (day she had the stroke, the day she passed and the day we met) till this Wednsday, the day we became “US”. It just sucks.

  • commented on Sharing With Myself 2016-06-30 09:49:55 -0700
    I can identify with every part of this. Very well done, thank you.

  • commented on A Letter to My Younger Self 2016-06-12 17:23:04 -0700
    i just hit the one year mark on Friday. I REALLY need to hear from my future self.

  • commented on I'm Not Made of Stone 2016-06-07 15:08:54 -0700
    Death sucks, grief sucks, widow/erhood sucks and what sucks too is watching your entire world in ICU. A year ago today I was in the middle of that experience for for the fourth and final time as I was begging her to wake up and come home with me. In her last 8 days she had her remaining leg amputated, heart attacks #3,4 & 5 and a stroke. It all sucks.

  • commented on Blind Trust 2016-05-31 09:53:42 -0700
    I so understand all this, not that I am or would like to be in another relationship right now. I took a trip to Savannah last December that we had talked about and I was constantly thinking how much she would have loved it and how a week would not have been long enough and how unfair it was that she wasn’t there with me (except in spirit). I also feel that I am not the same as I was, how could I be? She was sick for such a long time and along with that, I had been long term unemployed and we also got smacked by Superstorm Sandy. Everytime I see something new, my mind right away says “she would have loved that” or “she would have passed on this”. Its just so not fair. And its worse lately because the first anniversary of her heart attack and stroke are this week and next week is the first anniversary of the day she went to the Angels.

  • commented on Pre-planning your Emotional Response to Death...Ain't it Precious? 2016-05-25 15:24:36 -0700
    I can’t even begin to tell you how much I love this one! BRAVO!

  • commented on Broken Heart Exchange 2016-04-26 09:25:12 -0700
    Thank you for this. I have gotten “bogged down” with who is and isn’t supporting me and I really should’t because I just run the risk of alienating people and that would be repeating family history.

  • commented on Getting Around to It 2016-04-19 07:13:29 -0700
    Mike, this is so like my experience. I was out of work for 4 1/2 years starting in 2009 and things couldn’t get done in our house. long story short, Arlene always wanted new floors and our hallway, which had to be renovated be re done and we needed new furniture to replace what had to go out following Hurricane Sandy. The new floor in our house was put in in March of 2014 and she was able to climb the stairs to come and see them, our new bed and our bedroom set which a friend had given us. It was the last time she ever entered our house, she never saw the new living room set, the new sectional for our enclosed porch in the front of the house and the new ceiling fan she picked out for that room. All of this new stuff, which made the house nicer, she never saw. And now I sit in the living room, staring at the spot she’d be sitting in had she made it home and wonder why she isn’t there and think how so unfair it is that she never came home. She didn’t sleep in our house for her last 23 months.

  • commented on Back to Start 2016-04-10 07:48:07 -0700
    Kelly,

    I read this and it brings me back to when our dogs were sick (we were dog people) and when she was sick and when she was in the coma, and all I kept hearing from Arlene and her sister was that “You can’t fall apart”. So when is my turn? We all need that “maintenance” at some point. So if you need to, do it.