Don Yacona

  • commented on Approaching a Year 2019-10-17 11:17:15 -0700
    I’m over 4 years out. She passed after a long and trying and painful illness with so much happening that if I ever wrote a book about it, I’d have to call it “You can’t make this up”. But for me, it will ALWAYS be 6/10/15 3:55 pm.

  • commented on Phases of Widow 2019-10-11 11:25:02 -0700
    I will never deny what I am, I can self Identify as being thin, have great eyesight and a full head of hair but it doesn’t make it true, the reality is, I’m fat, bald and nearsighted…and a widower, I own it. And don’t care who knows it or is uncomfortable with it.

  • commented on Wispy Love~ 2019-10-09 11:22:51 -0700
    beautifully written

  • commented on Diagnoses Date 2019-10-07 11:38:16 -0700
    In my case, diagnoses day is September 11, she tool a flop, skinned her knee, it wouldn’t heal and wound up in the hospital, where she was admitted and asked "how long have you been a diabetic?’ her answer was that she wasn’t, and they said oh yes you are and have been for a long time. I know it was September 11 because we were watching them read the names of the Trade Center victims on TV. the next year she lost a toe and was home bound for 6 months, and 5 years later, she was in the hospital with what proved to be kidney failure. 30 months later she passed, but it all started coming to the surface on September 11, 2006

  • commented on Dear Dead Husband 2019-10-04 10:57:26 -0700
    I and most who walk this path, will NEVER roll our eyes at you going back and sitting at that venue. You’re doing great.

  • commented on You Need to Move On 2019-08-23 10:56:35 -0700
    Thats a hot button for me, usually made by those who have not walked this path and will compare it to losing their 85yo aunt. We should be legally be allowed to throat punch anyone who makes that suggestion.

  • commented on Beauty and Darkness 2019-08-08 12:03:49 -0700
    Welcome Mari, very sorry for your loss.

  • commented on Death and Coffee 2019-07-29 13:08:07 -0700
    I get it. I was about to go into a bagel and coffee shop when I got a call from the hospital saying that Arlene coded and did I want them to do CPR. It took me 2 months to go back to that place and see the intersection (42nd st and 8th avenue in Manhattan) where I was frantically trying to get a cab to go running back to the hospital in time.

  • commented on Thinking, and Overthinking~ 2019-06-19 11:10:27 -0700
    My answer to “happiness” along with “ok” is that they are both relative things

  • commented on Grief Math 2019-06-11 11:46:22 -0700
    Having a good memory for these things sux. I hit 4 years yesterday, which according to an app on my phone was 1461 days, which feel like centuries. A week from today we would have known each other for 39 years. Crap I’m old.

  • commented on When Things are Hard ... 2019-06-07 10:57:16 -0700
    I’m so sorry

  • commented on Numbers Again~ 2019-06-05 11:08:56 -0700
    Wonderful story, we should all get that kind of love and support. I will be alone 4 years on Monday at 3:55 PM. I feel like I’m the only one who remembers Arlene, who gave so much to so many. I feel like Burgess Meredith’s character in the Twilight Zone who survives an atomic blast, is alone, and then breaks his glasses.

  • commented on Nobody Remembers (Repeat) 2019-05-28 11:43:47 -0700
    I feel that way when I see family.

  • commented on Tightrope Walker 2019-05-10 13:46:26 -0700
    At times its like feeling like you need to be cloned, or be an octopus, like playing wack a mole, picking your battles, feeling your way thru a maze in the dark one at a time or all at once.

  • commented on Beginning my New Year~ 2019-05-08 11:26:19 -0700
    That is beyond AWESOME! I can’t wait to see it. Congrats!

  • commented on Things That Matter 2019-04-26 13:57:03 -0700
    People who have it pretty good lives posting a drink or a meal or both on social media and saying “The current situation” or pics while they are on vacation (usually a beach) of themselves with their partners and/or families saying “The struggle is real”. Double points if its a meal and drinks overlooking a beach with their partners, because as we all know, “The current situation is that the struggle is real….literally”.

  • commented on 6 Years of Tired~ 2019-04-25 11:11:43 -0700
    Its exhausting. I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired

  • commented on Boilerplate Questions 2019-04-23 11:08:49 -0700
    I have shouldas. Should have argued with her more to go to the doctor. Shoulda dragged her to the doctor. Shoulda done more research into why her walking was being compromised. Shoulda shoulda shoulda.

  • commented on Numbers and Changing Lives~ 2019-04-10 05:07:44 -0700
    Alison, what you do is an inspiration. I will be at 4 years on June 10th and today is day 1400 or month 46 if you prefer. I wish i could do what you’ve been doing.

  • commented on The Guessing Game 2019-04-05 11:20:25 -0700
    I believe they still walk with us. A few months ago, I was standing at the kitchen sink, ,and I felt her come up behind me, giving me a hug and laying her head on my shoulder, like I had done so many times to her.