Don Yacona

  • commented on Beauty and Darkness 2019-08-08 12:03:49 -0700
    Welcome Mari, very sorry for your loss.

  • commented on Death and Coffee 2019-07-29 13:08:07 -0700
    I get it. I was about to go into a bagel and coffee shop when I got a call from the hospital saying that Arlene coded and did I want them to do CPR. It took me 2 months to go back to that place and see the intersection (42nd st and 8th avenue in Manhattan) where I was frantically trying to get a cab to go running back to the hospital in time.

  • commented on Thinking, and Overthinking~ 2019-06-19 11:10:27 -0700
    My answer to “happiness” along with “ok” is that they are both relative things

  • commented on Grief Math 2019-06-11 11:46:22 -0700
    Having a good memory for these things sux. I hit 4 years yesterday, which according to an app on my phone was 1461 days, which feel like centuries. A week from today we would have known each other for 39 years. Crap I’m old.

  • commented on When Things are Hard ... 2019-06-07 10:57:16 -0700
    I’m so sorry

  • commented on Numbers Again~ 2019-06-05 11:08:56 -0700
    Wonderful story, we should all get that kind of love and support. I will be alone 4 years on Monday at 3:55 PM. I feel like I’m the only one who remembers Arlene, who gave so much to so many. I feel like Burgess Meredith’s character in the Twilight Zone who survives an atomic blast, is alone, and then breaks his glasses.

  • commented on Nobody Remembers (Repeat) 2019-05-28 11:43:47 -0700
    I feel that way when I see family.

  • commented on Tightrope Walker 2019-05-10 13:46:26 -0700
    At times its like feeling like you need to be cloned, or be an octopus, like playing wack a mole, picking your battles, feeling your way thru a maze in the dark one at a time or all at once.

  • commented on Beginning my New Year~ 2019-05-08 11:26:19 -0700
    That is beyond AWESOME! I can’t wait to see it. Congrats!

  • commented on Things That Matter 2019-04-26 13:57:03 -0700
    People who have it pretty good lives posting a drink or a meal or both on social media and saying “The current situation” or pics while they are on vacation (usually a beach) of themselves with their partners and/or families saying “The struggle is real”. Double points if its a meal and drinks overlooking a beach with their partners, because as we all know, “The current situation is that the struggle is real….literally”.

  • commented on 6 Years of Tired~ 2019-04-25 11:11:43 -0700
    Its exhausting. I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired

  • commented on Boilerplate Questions 2019-04-23 11:08:49 -0700
    I have shouldas. Should have argued with her more to go to the doctor. Shoulda dragged her to the doctor. Shoulda done more research into why her walking was being compromised. Shoulda shoulda shoulda.

  • commented on Numbers and Changing Lives~ 2019-04-10 05:07:44 -0700
    Alison, what you do is an inspiration. I will be at 4 years on June 10th and today is day 1400 or month 46 if you prefer. I wish i could do what you’ve been doing.

  • commented on The Guessing Game 2019-04-05 11:20:25 -0700
    I believe they still walk with us. A few months ago, I was standing at the kitchen sink, ,and I felt her come up behind me, giving me a hug and laying her head on my shoulder, like I had done so many times to her.

  • commented on Time and Wishing~ 2019-04-03 11:14:42 -0700
    I’ve never thought of using the day she passed as the begining of the new year, but it kinda fits. I also have an app that tells me how many days (1394).

    I have to ask though, how will you get Pink Magic to Scotland? (Awesome idea btw)

  • commented on Everything but the Kitchen Sink 2019-04-01 11:16:56 -0700
    I miss it so much.

  • commented on Self-Caretaking 2019-03-26 11:22:47 -0700
    You sound like me as far as grumpy is concerned. I was Arlene’s first soul caregiver, then lead caregiver after her and her sister reconciled, I’ve always made grumpy into an artform, she used to tell me that I always look angry and that I never smile in pictures. I was long-term unemployed and robbing my 401k during the first half of her illness and the buildup to it just to keep a roof over our heads, then we were trying to recover from Hurricane Sandy when things came to head. I’m coming up on 4 years in June, I think I’ll just stay grumpy, it works for me. Besides, giving “the look” at appropriate times is a powerful weapon.

  • commented on When Their Truth Hits 2019-03-25 11:15:22 -0700
    I’ve never had a visitor in the almost 4 years since Arlene passed. I never get an invite for a beer, a cup of coffee or even a text or phone call. Its as if social media has taken the place of personal interaction. If I do see people that I know, its thru widowed meetup groups. Thats it. I hate this “life”.

  • commented on It Gets Softer 2019-03-15 11:20:18 -0700
    Since at almost 4 years (in June) I am now considered a veteran (YIKES!), whenever I come across a newly widowed person and they ask me if it gets better, I always say no, softer, but there will be times when it will spike and spike HARD.

  • commented on Accepting Fear 2019-03-11 11:29:11 -0700
    In my case, the other shoe drops so often you’d think its tap dancing