Don Yacona

  • commented on Numbers and Changing Lives~ 2019-04-10 05:07:44 -0700
    Alison, what you do is an inspiration. I will be at 4 years on June 10th and today is day 1400 or month 46 if you prefer. I wish i could do what you’ve been doing.

  • commented on The Guessing Game 2019-04-05 11:20:25 -0700
    I believe they still walk with us. A few months ago, I was standing at the kitchen sink, ,and I felt her come up behind me, giving me a hug and laying her head on my shoulder, like I had done so many times to her.

  • commented on Time and Wishing~ 2019-04-03 11:14:42 -0700
    I’ve never thought of using the day she passed as the begining of the new year, but it kinda fits. I also have an app that tells me how many days (1394).

    I have to ask though, how will you get Pink Magic to Scotland? (Awesome idea btw)

  • commented on Everything but the Kitchen Sink 2019-04-01 11:16:56 -0700
    I miss it so much.

  • commented on Self-Caretaking 2019-03-26 11:22:47 -0700
    You sound like me as far as grumpy is concerned. I was Arlene’s first soul caregiver, then lead caregiver after her and her sister reconciled, I’ve always made grumpy into an artform, she used to tell me that I always look angry and that I never smile in pictures. I was long-term unemployed and robbing my 401k during the first half of her illness and the buildup to it just to keep a roof over our heads, then we were trying to recover from Hurricane Sandy when things came to head. I’m coming up on 4 years in June, I think I’ll just stay grumpy, it works for me. Besides, giving “the look” at appropriate times is a powerful weapon.

  • commented on When Their Truth Hits 2019-03-25 11:15:22 -0700
    I’ve never had a visitor in the almost 4 years since Arlene passed. I never get an invite for a beer, a cup of coffee or even a text or phone call. Its as if social media has taken the place of personal interaction. If I do see people that I know, its thru widowed meetup groups. Thats it. I hate this “life”.

  • commented on It Gets Softer 2019-03-15 11:20:18 -0700
    Since at almost 4 years (in June) I am now considered a veteran (YIKES!), whenever I come across a newly widowed person and they ask me if it gets better, I always say no, softer, but there will be times when it will spike and spike HARD.

  • commented on Accepting Fear 2019-03-11 11:29:11 -0700
    In my case, the other shoe drops so often you’d think its tap dancing

  • commented on Widowing and Renaisance Faires 2019-03-06 11:13:17 -0800
    PROFESSIONAL MOURNER? Hey if you do the one in Tuxedo NY this year and need a sidekick for a day or two….lets just say I’ve had experience.

  • commented on Grief. Secondarily~ 2019-02-27 11:14:38 -0800
    I miss it all

  • commented on A Hallmark Heartbreak Kind of Holiday 2019-02-11 14:59:22 -0800
    I can’t tell you how much I HATE February 14th. Social media is going to be very hard that day and I would advise you to stay away from it. When I pass all the V-day stuff in store or in people’s windows now, I just mutter two words which are NOT Happy Birthday. Just saying.

  • commented on A Life Unfinished ... 2019-02-08 15:07:13 -0800
    Right where I am these days. Thank you

  • commented on Exclamations and Tildes~ 2019-01-23 11:07:56 -0800
    !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Is that enough?

  • commented on This is Getting Old 2019-01-14 11:17:42 -0800
    This “life” sucks

  • commented on Inside the Rhythms of the Music 2019-01-11 11:15:34 -0800
    Wonderful as always

  • commented on Wandering~ 2019-01-09 11:08:36 -0800
    Arlene passed on June 10th, 2015. I have always marked the 10th of each month by bringing her white roses to the cemetery and posting a white rose on her facebook. I used to be able to count how many months its been, but lately, because so much time has gone by, I had to think about how many months its been, I was doing that today.

    I have my own version of the nasty old woman dressed in black, sort of a combination Walt Kawolski and Fred Sanford..“Get off my lawn you big dummy”. Hey it works.

  • commented on Growth, Change, and New Opportunities 2019-01-04 11:15:34 -0800
    Thats what I’ve tried to do for the last three years. I listen to different music now, done different things, I’ve made five bucketlist trips, on my own I might add. She’d be amazed at everything I’ve done. It just makes me incredibly sad that she didnt share in them. Nothing I can do about that.

  • commented on All the Things We Didnt Do 2019-01-04 11:11:36 -0800
    Turning shoulda dones with our late spouses into gotta do’s for us now.

  • commented on One Box 2018-12-22 08:15:00 -0800
    This is wonderful Kelly. I’m so happy for you that you found Nick, he sounds like a great guy (for a Red Sox fan, j/k) and it is my wish for you and him, that that one box becomes the first of what will eventually become a warehouse full of boxes. With room for Don’s of course.

    Merry Christmas

  • commented on My Crooked Christmas Tree 2018-12-17 11:50:31 -0800
    That tree ROCKS! And so does the Dog. Merry Christmas!