Lisa Richardson

  • commented on The Home That Doesn't Quite Fit Anymore 2016-04-02 23:28:57 -0700
    The first few weeks in my downtown apartment were really hard. I too felt like I didn’t fit in the house that had been ours so I reluctantly moved, terrified that I was somehow abandoning “us”. Now it’s home, I love the hustle and bustle of the city around me, and funny thing is – He came right along with me. It’s a scary step – but you have to trust your instincts. I’m sure it will go well!

  • commented on A Recipe for Life after Loss 2016-03-27 08:36:40 -0700
    Sarah what a wonderful post! I typically read this blog at the end of my day when I climb into bed. But this morning for whatever reason I chose to open it with my morning coffee. What a perfect way to start what can be a difficult day. Thank you.

  • commented on The Good, Bad, Ugly, and Everything in Between~ 2016-03-23 22:37:40 -0700
    She’s beautiful Alison! Say “hello” to Millington for me next time you’re through. It’s where my Tony and I were from and holds a special place in my heart. Hugs to you….

  • commented on Ready to Step Up 2016-03-20 00:35:00 -0700
    Rebecca your post is so timely for me. I’m realizing the long days, horribly lonely evenings and empty weekends are leaving me feeling stuck. Though I’m a bit older than you and my career is winding down, I’m feeling a need for a new challenge to fill my time but also add to my income. My widow’s benefits from my husband’s social security end in June so I’ll need to do something soon. Thanks for reminding me I’m not alone in all these feelings. It’s reading here that keeps me pressing forward.

  • commented on Trying to Treasure 2016-03-17 22:59:43 -0700
    Happy Birthday tutu! The circle of life is an amazing thing to watch isn’t it? Thanks for the reminder to treasure each moment.

  • commented on The Simple Life 2016-03-07 23:41:30 -0800
    Mike thank you for sharing this. I have struggled with similar thoughts. Without going into a lot of detail, my husband suffered from a terrible disease that made everyday life chaotic and at times a downright nightmare. Don’t get me wrong, I would do it all again in an instant if it meant even one more day with him. It helps to remind myself that somewhere he is now free. Free from his disease, free to just enjoy whatever adventure he’s on. It’s not that I’m happier or better off – just living differently now, and it doesn’t change a thing about our story or our love.

  • commented on Robbed of his 37th Birthday 2016-03-06 23:59:18 -0800
    Rebecca I’m so sorry. I’m a suicide widow as well. my Tony’s story is much like Dan’s. It’s been almost five years. Somehow people think I should be ok by now, but worse they think since some time has gone by I should also be ok with prying questions. Then I’m also supposed to be ok with the shocked look on their faces as I tell our story. If it’s uncomfortable for them to simply hear it – how could it possibly be ok for us to live it? Hugs to you and a very happy birthday to Dan. May you always remember with love.

  • commented on A Wandering Widow 2016-03-03 12:13:06 -0800
    Stephanie these words you wrote so eloquently totally reflect where and who I am today. I look at my life like a well-worn patchwork quilt while others around me have a smooth cashmere blanket. I hate the grief that accompanies me, but I wouldn’t trade my quilt for anything. Enjoy the ohana and your travels!

  • commented on Familiar Roads 2016-02-27 00:29:03 -0800
    Isn’t it just so weird to connect with someone who you share memories of Don with on a level no one else quite does? I had coffee with a very dear old friend of my Tony’s. Someone who knew him almost as well as I did. I haven’t seen him in years and yet on some level we have these common memories and common past. It sent me on an emotional journey I’m still not fully comprehending. I hope you enjoy this new friendship, and that it brings you some joy you totally deserve to have.

  • commented on Don't Blink 2016-02-23 23:57:59 -0800
    Mike what you have written could not have come at a better time for me. My now 17-year-old son is flexing those teenage muscles, getting ready to leave for college, and basically doing everything in his power to prove to me he doesn’t need or want a mom around. Certainly normal, but oh so much harder when he’s the only thing left from my marriage to Tony. Thanks for reminding me I’m not alone in this struggle.

  • commented on Wearing his Clothes 2016-02-22 23:39:35 -0800
    As I read this I’m in bed, wearing the t-shirt Tony used to wear to bed. It has the very same effect on me. I close my eyes and can feel him lying next to me. A reminder of us that I’ll treasure always.

  • commented on What does a Widow Look Like? 2016-02-20 23:56:35 -0800
    I’m with you-don’t know where I’d be today without my widowed community. So grateful for you all!

  • commented on I Will Never Move On 2016-02-19 23:37:49 -0800
    When my husband died five years ago our son was 11 years old. One of the first calls I had to make was to his school principal. She, of course, informed his teachers. The day before he went back to school they met with all his classmates. They told the kids Cameron had lost his Dad and said to them “here are some things you can say to him, and here are some things you don’t say”. You don’t know how many times I have wished (and sctually said out loud) “I wish someone would do that for adults!” Thanks for starting this conversation Kelley – it’s awesome.

  • commented on Death Day 2016-02-18 23:18:20 -0800
    So many changes – they never stop coming do they? Congratulations on the newest grandbaby, and know that we love you.

  • commented on So What Day 2016-02-12 23:36:36 -0800
    Michele my husband too balked at Valentine’s Day. But maybe out of fear of seeing me disappointed faithfully got me a card each year. I still have and cherish them all. And now each Valentine’s Day I get a special card for him, write to him lovingly just like I used to, and tuck the card away with all of his. It’s become an annual ritual, and I like it. No matter where this after life takes me I’ll always stop and remember each year.

  • commented on You Deserve To Share This 2016-02-05 14:33:09 -0800
    Kelley my son is graduating high school this June and has been accepted to his first choice college to study engineering (which his dad and I always guessed was his calling). While my story is different than yours, the same gaping hole in my heart and soul is there reminding me his Dad isn’t here to watch this dream become a reality. So I carry a picture to all my son’s milestone events of his Dad holding him minutes after he was born. It’s the best I can do. It’s a bittersweet process isn’t it? Good luck to you on your wonderful adventure. You so deserve this!

  • commented on Realities of Dating after Death 2016-01-31 23:11:25 -0800
    Sarah thanks for writing about what,for me, is one of the most painful parts of this journey. Looking at the difficulties in our relationship is so hard. Harder yet is trying to resolve all that past when the person who was in it with me (and so the only one who truly understands it) is gone from this earth. So much work yet to do on me…..sigh

  • commented on Jumble 2016-01-29 22:49:59 -0800
    Yup – I’m there. I was kidding myself into thinking it was just me getting older. Nope, it’s the grief thing AGAIN.

  • commented on A sea of flowers 2016-01-28 23:35:59 -0800
    Such a beautiful tribute to all those who are gone. I wish all of us didn’t share so much common experience, but I too am grateful for the connection to so many others. I have never met any of you and yet I feel your love and support every day.

  • commented on It is not the Mountains we Conquer 2016-01-25 23:37:18 -0800
    I envy that you have found this place. I feel as if I’m searching for mine, and your words inspire me to keep looking.