Lisa Richardson

  • commented on Further Away 2016-11-18 22:57:12 -0800
    It is so comforting to be here with the ones who “get it”. That understand why this is so important to all of us. None of you question why I still wear my wedding ring or why I always travel with a picture of him. I never want to forget.

  • commented on To my kids, I'm sorry 2016-11-14 23:47:20 -0800
    It is so hard. As much as I try to be the best I can be for my kids there is one thing I can’t be….their dad. I know in time they’ll gain better understanding of how hard this is for us, but until then we just have to do our best, and take strength from each other. You’re doing a great job, doing your best. That’s all anyone can ask of you and all we can expect from ourselves! Sending you strength and hugs.

  • commented on A Slice of Hope 2016-11-11 23:05:12 -0800
    If we could just get everyone to do this exercise once a day maybe we could make the world a happier place. Brilliant Kelley. Thank you

  • commented on A Quiet Moment 2016-11-10 08:04:28 -0800
    Such a difficult time for all of you, and certainly for your Dad. My prayers are with you as you seek a solution.

  • commented on One Month Till One Year 2016-11-05 15:18:18 -0700
    Kaiti I am so very sorry. Sorry we all have to relive those days. I would like to think they’ll get better with time, but after 5 years my memories of that horrible day are as sharp and clear as if it was yesterday. The anxiety leading up to it has eased somewhat which is a bit of a relief. I guess it’s a testament to the depth of the love we shared, and that you two shared. Wishing you peace on this, and all future, anniversaries.

  • commented on D-Day 2016-11-03 23:29:08 -0700
    Stephanie I am so very sorry. We lived through a similar situation with my Dad who also couldn’t stay still for more than a minute at a time…..all night long. I think we collectively got about 30 minutes sleep each night. I’m a year or two “ahead” of you in all the life changes. I have to say, now that I’m here (wherever “here” is), that this is a strange new world I’m in. I miss my old home and community, I miss my old life with Tony. Sure there are good things happening, but it’s a bit surreal. There’s a line in a song I keep hearing in my head “it feels just like I’m living someone else’s life. It’s like I just stepped outside, when everything was going right”. Still waiting for a new normal and to feel “a part of” again. But like you I thank God for this community and my widowed friends. They are the shining beacons in this storm. Sending hugs and much love.

  • commented on Ticking Clock 2016-10-29 14:34:19 -0700
    Kaiti I so appreciate reading everyone’s “timeline”. Though they vary for all of us, it helps to give me hope and to know I’m not alone in how erratic and unexpected the waves of grief can be.

  • commented on Its My Anniversary, and My Husband Is Dead 2016-10-28 23:34:44 -0700
    How terrible and yet comforting that all of us here know. We share that aching and longing. We get the horrible emptiness that comes from knowing only one soul remaining on this earth knows our story and our love. It’s the worst part of this “after” life and yet on an anniversary the pain is almost unbearable isn’t it? I’ve been sobbing in that car….and I’m so very sorry for what you’ve lost Kelley. Sending hugs your way.

  • commented on What Matters In The End 2016-10-27 23:45:45 -0700
    Stephanie it’s all so very hard. I lost my dad three months before my husband. He was 91 and didn’t suffer long, but I was his only caregiver and faced all of what you’re dealing with now. It’s taken a huge toll on me, and I’ve aged a lot. But as you said there’s not much more we can do but take it one step at a time. And remember that sometimes deciding to do nothing for the moment is a decision in itself.

  • commented on Living his list 2016-10-24 19:59:40 -0700
    Key West holds special memories for me of my Tony. It was our first real vacation together. This past weekend was my first visit to see our son in college. It was so wonderful and so very hard all at the same time. I could never have even imagined this as my reality but it is. Thanks for reminding me we’re not alone in this.

  • commented on Rapid Fire 2016-10-13 23:08:50 -0700
    Sometimes life feels like it has us by the tail doesn’t it? I just remind myself to put one foot in front of the other, try to enjoy the little things, and breathe. You’ve been through so much already, but you’re a strong woman. I know you’ll get through this too.

  • commented on All Is Not Lost 2016-10-06 22:41:48 -0700
    Stephanie I’m so very sorry. Another loss after being through so much already. It’s true, all is not lost. But it sometimes is hard to see the plans being laid out in front of us isn’t it? As this life moves you forward remember we all love you.

  • commented on He Was My Addiction 2016-10-02 08:18:54 -0700
    Kaiti – your post has given me strength. My Tony was an alcoholic and addict all his life. I too was shamed and judged by everyone except the families who loved someone like him. He spent most of his adult life fighting his demons and had sporadic years of being clean and sober. Ultimately the fight led to depression which ended in suicide. I have always been so proud of the man he was and the battles he fought. The judgement from others is impossible to escape though. My prayer is one day society will change, and we’ll do better by all these wonderful souls. Have courage….I’ve certainly gotten some from you.

  • commented on Walking Collages 2016-09-29 11:57:12 -0700
    Amen

  • commented on Cole turns 3 2016-09-27 00:20:03 -0700
    We lost Tony two months before my son’s 13th birthday. This year I packed him off to college. He is so like his dad in so many ways, but they are ways he will never really know. It’s true, where kids are concerned grief is so much more intense and complex. Sending you hugs.

  • commented on Working With Grief 2016-09-24 23:15:13 -0700
    Wow Kaiti your experience brings up so many thoughts. Sometimes it all seems so unfair – the expectations of others, the inability to focus that comes with the grief, just the situation we find ourselves in. So very proud of all you do for yourself and all of us. Give yourself lots of credit – you deserve it!

  • commented on Just Life 2016-09-23 11:06:28 -0700
    Perfect Kelley. Perfect because my life right now is just that – a string of random thoughts. I’m trying to be patient and let them become organized into some sort of life plan, but they’re just hovering around. So I guess I’ll just wait and watch and wonder and enjoy the fall. It’s my favorite time of year too.

  • commented on Noticing Saturdays 2016-09-22 22:33:35 -0700
    How exciting Stephanie! Changes are so many emotions all running out of control but isn’t that what our lives have become? Good for you for taking these steps, and thanks for taking us with you. It’s inspiring and more helpful than you know.

  • commented on Walking Alone 2016-09-20 16:25:41 -0700
    I always enjoy your perspective Mike. It expands my thinking when it would be easy to stay stuck in my own small world. Thank you for that.

  • commented on Collective Grief 2016-09-15 23:17:06 -0700
    There is a line in a song I love – Don’t know how I lived without you, cuz every time that I get around ya, I see the best of me inside your eyes….
    I miss the best of me. The feeling he gave me that it was safe to truly be myself and no matter what he loved me for it. Yes, our world shifted on 9/11, and mine has shifted so much again since April 2011.