Lisa Richardson

  • commented on Rattled 2017-07-22 23:59:44 -0700
    Well your rat story triggered my own rat story memories. (We have giant Norwegian tree rats here in the northwest, but we love the trees so we deal with the rats). The memories are so bittersweet. But I did laugh at the last line you wrote….I said the very same thing when I had to fix the faucet! We’re all just doing the best we can.

  • commented on Life Getting in the Way 2017-07-18 07:00:02 -0700
    Mike this is exactly where I’ve been the past few months. Feeling the entire range of what you described, and in a way feeling concerned that somehow after 6 years I’m not “doing it right”. Thanks for reminding me there is no right or wrong in this mess, only forward day by day.

  • commented on The Meaning of Teeth 2017-07-13 07:03:18 -0700
    I think all of us are screaming a big internal – YES!! THAT’S IT EXACTLY!
    I put in my time and it kind of feels like “until it’s my time”…. I’m trying hard to find new purpose but it is so elusive. Sigh

  • commented on Just Another Week 2017-06-29 23:12:21 -0700
    One week after another…I miss the certainty of life with Tony. Everything seems fragile and precarious without him. Sigh

  • commented on Embrace the Tomboy 2017-06-27 23:59:25 -0700
    Way to go Dad! Be proud of that capable young woman. I was like her as a girl – was my dad’s “right hand man” in all house/car projects. Then 6 years ago I found myself a widowed mom to an 12-year-old boy. I can never be his dad, but at least I could show him how to change the oil in his first car.

  • commented on Return To Me~ 2017-06-14 11:38:28 -0700
    Beautiful Alison, just beautiful.

  • commented on “Share your memories! (3 Years Ago)" 2017-06-13 09:45:13 -0700
    Isn’t it sad how technology reminds us whether we want it or not, yet everyone around us expects us to “forget it, get over it, and move on”. So sorry you have to deal with that. Hugs to all of you

  • commented on Killer Lonliness 2017-06-01 23:49:52 -0700
    Loneliness continues to be my biggest struggle. I am so glad we have this community to share. Thank you to all the writers and everyone who reads here. It truly helps me feel not so alone.

  • commented on Its Not Easy 2017-05-20 01:15:32 -0700
    You’re a strong woman Kaiti. Our son was 12 when we lost my Tony. Parenting is a tough job at best, but doing it alone along with the grief makes the unfairness of it all overwhelming. It’s been 6 years for me now. Life is still throwing unfairness my way, and the grief is still there. But I’m watching my son grow into a great young man, and that makes all the struggle worthwhile. It’s ok to just survive some days. We love you

  • commented on This Particular Feeling... 2017-05-18 00:08:22 -0700
    Emptiness is a perfect word for it. I have never felt so alone even surrounded by people I know and love. There’s always this hole in me that can never be filled. I thought it might get better with time, and it is easier to live with a bit after 6 years. But it never goes away.

  • commented on Shifts Happen 2017-04-27 19:47:11 -0700
    Wow ladies I’m there too. It’s such an empty feeling. I get up and work each day because I have a son to put through college and launch hopefully into life on his own. Who am I?

  • commented on Happy 6th Birthday 2017-04-24 23:25:25 -0700
    So many of us share this. Hard as I may try to be the best parent I can for my kids, the one thing I can never be is their dad. But Jacob will know his dad through you and others who tell him about the man his father was. And that will make all the difference.

  • commented on Talking to Mike 2017-04-20 23:58:59 -0700
    Funny, I hear Tony saying “livin’ the dream” – one of his favorite replies to being asked how he was. Now I wonder what that dream is. It is scary to try and see a future. But I’m going headlong into it one day at a time, plan or not. So I guess all we can do is try to enjoy the ride.

  • commented on Pre-survivor's Guilt 2017-04-18 23:24:38 -0700
    Someone once told me “love is strength – lean on it.” Let all of us be your strength this week while you’re away.

  • commented on The Day You Died, 2017-04-15 23:47:08 -0700
    So very beautiful Kaiti – thank you for sharing it with us.

  • commented on You Would Be Proud of Me If You Weren't Dead 2017-04-07 23:11:25 -0700
    Kelley you have so much to be proud of. We’ve all felt the depth of that aloneness at times. Like the day I drove away after dropping our son at college. So much pride in that moment, and still so much pain in what he’s missing and we’re missing not having him here. Thank you for carrying the message to others. You are truly an inspiration.

  • commented on Months of Meaning~ 2017-04-05 00:16:55 -0700
    It crosses my mind quite often that we all have these numbers in our heads that mean nothing to anyone but ourselves. The lonliness of that is staggering to me. It’s good to be reminded we all have them, and helps me feel connected.

  • commented on Grown Up Problems 2017-03-23 11:23:48 -0700
    When that “bubble” pops it just leaves me feeling raw and exposed all the time. I miss the comfort it provided and the escape from all that grown up noise!

  • commented on Long Road Ahead 2017-03-20 23:52:36 -0700
    Good for you Michelle. We had the same plan. But my social security has stopped since our youngest turned 16, and I’m left to pay for not just living but his college as well (which I will gladly do if I have to work 6 jobs). It’s tough, and for some strange reason people are shocked to hear that widows/ers have financial issues. We all believe in you – you can do this!

  • commented on Love and Magic...Does it Still Exist? 2017-03-16 00:25:26 -0700
    Alison you spoke what’s in my heart and mind so eloquently. I dream too….