commented on Tired
2018-04-13 17:40:58 -0700
Oh Kate! I’m so glad my words helped. It was (and still is) such a relief to me when I read what someone else writes and I go ME TOO!!
Just one thing…IT DOES GET EASIER with the kids! And, like the grief, it mostly happens in imperceptible ways. I will be celebrating (marking, remembering) 9 years on Monday. Art wouldn’t recognize his kids now. The ramification of his loss hits them as they get older and can see all the milestones he will miss. And (there is no but…just and ‘and’) there is so much beauty in who they have become BECAUSE of his death. They are so kind and keep their friends grounded. They are thoughtful, so much more than they would have been if he had been alive. Their love for each other is simply indescribable. And we have become this protective unit. It’s sweet and good and most of the time pure (except when they fight with each or me with them!)
My kids often find other kids who have lost. I tell them that’s because dented hearts are drawn to each other. They will be ok, just like you will. Not suddenly but day-by-day.
Anway, I just wanted you to know that. Kim