Words in a Book, From the Grave~

St Thomas Aquinas said that Love feels no burden, thinks nothing of trouble, attempts what is above its strength, pleads no excuse of impossibility.  It is therefore able to undertake all things.

To hear your laugh again did wonders for my heart.  I feel so deeply for you and want you to be as happy and fulfilled as you can be.

I know that Betty is now free of pain is with Kysa, and both are celebrating their new life.

I know that love is a powerful emotion and if anything can help, it is love. 

Together, in love and through love, we will get through this difficult time.

 

 

For most of our 24 years together, my beloved husband, Chuck, and I kept a journal for Love Notes to each other.  We did this instead of exchanging cards.  I’d write a note to him, a page maybe, and then place it on his pillow for him to find.  Or he’d write a note to me before leaving TDY (military travel) and put it on my pillow to find and read while he was gone.

Our Love Notes journal has traveled with me for all the years since Chuck died.  Mostly I haven’t opened it; it’s been too painful.  But it resides snugly with his flag and cremains, within hands reach each night, whether I’m in my trailer or in a room somewhere.

A few nights ago I opened it again.  Just read the first couple entries I told myself.  That much is bearable.

Our first few entries began the same year my mom and brother died.  Each of them had a different kind of cancer.  My younger brother died, and when I called my sister to tell her that our brother had died, she told me something was wrong with my mom.  Six months later my mom died.  Chuck was newly retired from the military, unable to find a job, money was tight, and death seemed all around us.  It was an impossibly stress-filled time.

The quotes above are Chuck’s words that he wrote to me in the first two entries of our Love Notes journal.  He writes the words about my brother and mom, about grief, about death…but he is speaking to me from the grave, isn’t he?  Because the words he wrote are what he believed, they tell me his concept of the afterlife, his fervent belief in the power of Love, and yes and most especially, what he wanted for me then, what he would want for me now.

These words are so very important because I’ve agonized since Chuck’s death, trying to remember what he believed of an afterlife.  I know we must have had numerous conversations about that, and about a Higher Power but I can’t recall any such conversations.  I don’t know what I believe and it has literally sickened me that I may not ever see him again, that maybe our 24 years is what we had and that’s it and it’s done and over and I can’t bear that thought.  I just can’t. 

Within those sentences, within those words that I read night after night so that I can memorize them into my heart…I read them and I physically felt my heart begin to pound.  Here it is, I thought, here they are…his words Chuck’s words his beliefs here they are!  I don’t need to try to remember any longer because they’re right here to read, in a tiny journal of Love Notes, words that were written from him to me over 20 years ago.

His words echo what my heart and my instinct have told me continually since I began my Odyssey of Love.  That Love is all that matters, that with love and through Love, I can get through this.  It’s what I have left of him and what I live daily, mile after mile, year after year.

Chuck spoke to me from the grave yesterday, powerful words on the pages of a little book covered in stars and moons.  He spoke to me in the here and now, from a day in the past, and told me what he believed and what he hoped for, and what he wanted for me, and each and every one of his words are what he would write to me today, as I widow my way.

Love is powerful.  Love is what he and I shared for 24 years and Love is what he left behind for me and Love is all that matters to me now and forever.  We were Love and now I am Love. 

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  • commented 2016-12-23 09:32:01 -0800
    Re-reading that journal was a wonderful gift to you from Chuck.

    This post resonates with me for several different reasons. My husband Ken died almost 10 years ago, which feels like both a hundred years, and just the blink of an eye at the same time. We had a running joke based on a Curb Your Enthusiasm episode where the couple renews their vows and has an argument about whether they should be “till death do us part” or “throughout eternity”. We discussed it so many times, and yet I’ve never been able to remember which one Ken said he would want, and, like you, I’ve agonized about it.

    Love never dies.
  • commented 2016-12-21 10:33:45 -0800
    This is a powerful post and it gave me goose bumps. It is not a revelation to me that there is an afterlife. I have always believed and know that there is an afterlife and my husband did too. No, the goose bumps are for the hope and joy Chuck’s words gave you. Right now I can’t think of anyone that deserves that hope than you.

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