Sharon D Wall

  • commented on Thanks Death, Now I Have To... 2016-08-22 14:03:23 -0700
    Yes, Sarah! Thanks so much for your post! I have some similar things going on, but haven’t had the right words to express how I’m feeling. The decisions right now feel so damn big and I’m so sad and annoyed that I have to be making plan B decisions at all. I know you’ll sort it out and it’s wonderful that you know you 100% want this life you’re building with Mike and Shelby.

  • commented on How Much Time? 2016-08-04 18:07:07 -0700
    I’m glad you don’t feel ready to leave yet although I understand asking the question of yourself. I would miss your posts!! A lot!! I can’t believe how I consistently relate to your experiences and appreciate your insight.

    And about parting with our husband’s stuff – I recently sold Brian’s motorcycle. I feel great that it’s on the road again with someone who is enjoying it a lot! I hope you can have the same experience as you part with Mike’s bicycle and surfboards.

  • commented on No Reason to Fear 2016-07-24 13:59:52 -0700
    You’re an inspiration, Sarah and you have a real talent for putting your experience into words. Thank you! #facethefear

  • commented on The Agony of Defeat 2016-07-22 22:00:38 -0700
    Yes, yes, yes!! Defeated is the perfect word to describe how I’m feeling. A year ago I had hope and optimism. Where there hell did that go? I’m tired – so very tired. Maybe we’ve been working so hard at moving forward/moving through that we need to rest right now. I have no clue – just grasping at straws…..

  • commented on Plan B 2016-07-22 21:55:09 -0700
    I’m having some of the same questions about my Plan B since Plan A was blown up 25 months ago. Funny how when I’m thinking about something, a blog post comes along that addresses the same issue. Thank you. And I wish you luck although I have complete faith you’ll figure it all out one step at a time.

  • commented on A Dance In The Dark 2016-07-14 20:31:03 -0700
    Dancing in the dark – I like that imagery. It fits for me too. I’m glad you’re beginning to sense a potential path for yourself and it gives me hope that I might find one too as long as I remain open to possibilities. I’m finding that doing “stuff” even if it is fun stuff isn’t the same as having a path.

  • commented on Fight Hate With Love 2016-07-08 20:18:00 -0700
    Thank you for your thoughtful post. It sounds like Brian and Don were a lot alike. I’ve been thinking lately how much I miss Brian’s wisdom, political analysis and the sense of safety I had with him. Lately , at 25 months out, this grief journey has become more difficult.

  • commented on Widowhood Confusion....What? 2016-07-07 11:13:23 -0700
    No, you’re certainly not alone in feeling as you do and asking all of these questions. Once again you’ve put my feelings into eloquent words. So many days I feel like a fraud because my inside and outside are so out of synch, but it’s not that I’m trying to hide anything. This is just how it is.

    Sarah, I too find being in a new relationship adds to the confusion and the questions AND, on top of that, people now expect me to be absolutely fine.

  • commented on Sharing With Myself 2016-07-02 21:01:53 -0700
    I’ve been experiencing all of this recently and have felt like I’m losing it. Thank you for putting words to what I’ve been feeling especially the part about the spirit of your partnership. God, I miss that. I miss being part of the team we were together.

  • commented on The Tsunami of July 2016-07-02 20:55:13 -0700
    Thanks for your post, Kelley. It’s right on as always. My tsunami is from mid March until June 13 – when Brian went into the hospital and never got out until his memorial. I call it the death march. It’s been 25 months now and even though the pain isn’t as sharp, I’m feeling so worn out from it all.

  • commented on As Life Continues~ 2016-06-30 16:52:26 -0700
    Exactly! There is no preparation. 25 months tomorrow and I still wonder how this can be my life.

  • commented on Still Healing, Still Growing 2016-06-19 17:01:50 -0700
    Thank you for this , Rebecca. I’m in a similar place with similar feelings.

  • commented on This Ugly World...but, oh, the Love~ 2016-06-16 22:32:22 -0700
    My world felt so much safer with Brian in it.

    And yes, I agree that love must be stronger than the hate we are witnessing in the world.


  • commented on A Letter to My Younger Self 2016-06-13 00:12:16 -0700
    Lean into it. Best advice ever. We can’t avoid it, go over or around it. We must lean into it.

    I forwarded this post to a friend – and the best hairdresser ever – whose partner recently died suddenly – way too soon, knowing it would resonate with her.

    Damn it – I wish this club we belong to would stop getting new members, but crap continues to happen.

  • commented on Strange New World 2016-06-12 23:59:52 -0700
    It truly is crazy. I recently spent the second anniversary of my husband’s death in Hawaii with a man who has become very special to me. At the same time I was reliving Brian’s last moments I was both enjoying time with this new man in my life and grieving the loss of my husband. There is no language adequate to describe the contradictions of loss and new love. Thank you for putting words to my rather surreal experience.

  • commented on Never Far 2016-06-10 19:51:02 -0700
    Yes, Stephanie! All of that. exactly what I’ve been thinking but haven’t had the words.

  • commented on A Light In the Dark - My Tribute to Soaring Spirits International 2016-05-29 10:34:26 -0700
    Great post, Kelley Lynn. Penny – I will also be in Toronto – see you there.

  • commented on Pre-planning your Emotional Response to Death...Ain't it Precious? 2016-05-25 11:42:49 -0700
    Diplomacy?? Really?? 😆 I love your response to this woman, Alison. Yes, a person can say those words ahead of time when we’re sure it will never happen to US, but that ain’t reality. Your last paragraph is reality.

    I have a person in my life who tells me, Brian wouldn’t want me or her to feel sad. Brian wouldn’t want us to carry on so. Wel, damn it – my feelings are my feelings and I claim them and will feel whatever I need to feel for as long as I need to feel it. And yes, grief and sadness is all mixed up with happy memories and moving forward, but that only makes this mess more tangled up. It will be 2 years on June 1.

  • commented on Breaking Silence 2016-05-22 23:21:03 -0700
    Sarah – I’m so glad you can share the happy times and combine them with the wretchedness of grief. Wretchedness – what a great word!

    In a million years I could never have imagined how grief and happiness could merge, but they are – they do. However, no matter how many wonderful things happen in my life, there will always be a dark edge because Brian died. I would love life to be simple again and to have the rose colored glasses within reach, but – no. Not going to happen. Damn.

  • commented on Everything's The Same 2016-05-22 23:06:39 -0700
    Me too – would pick up where we left off and it would be wonderful. Except it won’t happen. Almost 2 years. Damn!

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