Sharon Wall

  • commented on Here I Stand 2017-08-17 17:37:09 -0700
    So sorry for the loss of your friend, loss of an era, and most of all, of your life with Mike. I haven’t yet had to face losses of contemporaries, but I know that will come and it bring all the feelings flooding back. Brian and I also didn’t quite make 14 years. It would have been 17 years on Aug 26.

    Searingly alone – I know that feeling.

    You have such a powerful way with words. Thank you.

  • commented on The Meaning of Teeth 2017-07-13 17:40:02 -0700
    Yes, yes, yes, Stephanie! Once again, you nailed it!
    As I read the other comments, it struck me that we’re each on our own little island feeling the same way, despite important supports like the blog, the work of SSI and a ton of other support options. This stuff is just freaking hard! I want a magic wand that will fix it all.

  • commented on Embrace the Tomboy 2017-06-29 21:28:41 -0700
    Mike – as the mom of 2 women, the step-mom of 1 woman and the grandma of 4 girls and 2 boys, you’re awesome! You and Sarah are awesome together. Don’t doubt yourself. Shelby is and will continue to be great!

  • commented on Just Another Week 2017-06-29 21:25:00 -0700
    Uncertain and unsettled – just another week in the life of a widow. Yes, yes and yes.

  • commented on His Heart and Mine 2017-06-22 18:52:17 -0700
    Stephanie – I’ve had the same thoughts about Brian – he was also,59 when he died. If he’d come through chemo, stem cell transplant would have been next, and who knows how strong he could really have become after all of that. He would have hated to admit to reduced ability of any kind – in fact he once asked the doc “when will I be able to change the tire on my
    ^{%{^*ing truck?” Those are tough things to think about and they sure don’t make me miss him any less.

  • commented on Soul Searching 2017-06-08 19:04:14 -0700
    Yes, yes, yes – limbo land! I know it well. Competing priorities. Being true to you. Caring about family, friends. None of it is simple in your life or mine. Somehow I thought that by the time I hit my 60s, life would be settled and calm, but it has proven to be anything but.
    I know you will find your path. You’re a wise woman. So will I.
    Love to you, my friend.

  • commented on Killer Lonliness 2017-06-02 00:05:47 -0700
    So, do the Camino. Who know what insights it holds.

  • commented on Another Runner Up? 2017-01-21 22:01:38 -0800
    This is definitely a “thing.” So many questions I’ve asked myself and observations I’ve also made. Just wish I had the answers.

  • commented on Ashes and Tears 2016-12-30 19:24:23 -0800
    I think about this stuff a lot lately, especially since my dad and 2 wonderful uncles died in 2016, the most recent a few short days ago. Now my mom and all of her sisters are widows. I also regret I wasn’t as understanding as I could have been to others whose partners died before I had lived that hell. Now I know and I’m doing better.

    I hope Brian, my dad and my uncles are having a rocking good time in the afterlife, whatever that looks like.

  • commented on The People Who Stay 2016-12-23 03:17:20 -0800
    Me too, Stephanie. 2 1/2 years since Brian died and the season seems pretty joyless. Add to that, Dad’s death last March, Mom’s decreasing mobility and her sadness that Dad is no longer with us and there seems little reason to celebrate. But I’m glad I’m able to provide her with the kind of support I can because I too am living it.

    I’ve been surprised at some of the friends who have stayed and some who haven’t and it does seem to be those who get it that stick around.

    Thinking of you and your family and sending love.

  • commented on D-Day 2016-11-05 21:14:01 -0700
    Again – so much in common. Your dad. My dad. Your mom. My mom. Sad for you. Sad for me. Although I don’t want to create pressure ( although I know I may be), please, please keep,writing. I love your posts so much because they always resonate with me. If you do decide to stop, I’d go anywhere to meet you for coffee/wine.,,,

  • commented on All Is Not Lost 2016-10-07 14:56:35 -0700
    I’m so sorry you lost the house, Stephanie. Even though you expected it was coming, it’s yet another loss. And it’s mixed with the excitement of school and a new job you’re having fun with and the worry about your parents who are far away. Bitter and sweet all mixed together. Once again there are so many parallels with my life. I’ve just listed my condo because I want to relocate to another province, there are worries about a parent …. Wish you were close enough to grab a coffee or a glass of wine – I know we would have many things to chat about. Take good care! I think you’re pretty amazing!

  • commented on Vernacular 2016-09-15 22:32:35 -0700
    OMG, yes! “Dust” in my eyes right now! Brian’s way of turning a phrase. His way of perfectly imitating the Italian barber after a haircut (perhaps politically incorrect, but astoundingly accurate)! I miss that so damn much – and so many other things. 💔💔😰. Looking so forward to seeing you in TO, Kelley Lynn

  • commented on Sharing Grief 2016-09-02 14:43:48 -0700
    I’m blown away! Once again you have put words to much of my recent experience. I know you will find your way through limbo-land, even though it likely won’t always be comfortable. I was hiking yesterday and as I walked from more open terrain into deep forest, I thought the path was kind of like life feels these days – I couldn’t see very far ahead, but had to trust the trail was there and would take me to the destination.

  • commented on So I Don't Fade~ 2016-08-31 19:04:35 -0700
    Yep – doing the stuff, working hard, looking good to others. Doesn’t mean a thing. Yep. Me too.

  • commented on The Things Inside 2016-08-31 19:03:07 -0700
    What a courageous post! It brought home to me how I’m not letting anyone see what is behind the mask and that that is likely why I’ve been feeling like I have been. Looking forward to Camp where I can be real. Thank you.

  • commented on Thanks Death, Now I Have To... 2016-08-22 14:03:23 -0700
    Yes, Sarah! Thanks so much for your post! I have some similar things going on, but haven’t had the right words to express how I’m feeling. The decisions right now feel so damn big and I’m so sad and annoyed that I have to be making plan B decisions at all. I know you’ll sort it out and it’s wonderful that you know you 100% want this life you’re building with Mike and Shelby.

  • commented on How Much Time? 2016-08-04 18:07:07 -0700
    I’m glad you don’t feel ready to leave yet although I understand asking the question of yourself. I would miss your posts!! A lot!! I can’t believe how I consistently relate to your experiences and appreciate your insight.

    And about parting with our husband’s stuff – I recently sold Brian’s motorcycle. I feel great that it’s on the road again with someone who is enjoying it a lot! I hope you can have the same experience as you part with Mike’s bicycle and surfboards.

  • commented on No Reason to Fear 2016-07-24 13:59:52 -0700
    You’re an inspiration, Sarah and you have a real talent for putting your experience into words. Thank you! #facethefear

  • commented on The Agony of Defeat 2016-07-22 22:00:38 -0700
    Yes, yes, yes!! Defeated is the perfect word to describe how I’m feeling. A year ago I had hope and optimism. Where there hell did that go? I’m tired – so very tired. Maybe we’ve been working so hard at moving forward/moving through that we need to rest right now. I have no clue – just grasping at straws…..

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