Stephanie Vendrell

Itching and Aching

It’s official. We signed the lease this week, my boyfriend and I, for the house we will occupy for the next year. I’ve decided to only think that far ahead, and it’s made it a little easier. Because it’s a huge transition, moving from the house I shared with my late husband for so many years.


It’s also not a huge transition. I’m only moving, literally, up the block. And we have plenty of time to make the move, since my current house will be available for a couple more months. I’m going to move a few things at a time and do the big move after I’m back in Kona from my visit back east with family for Christmas.


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Going With It

The big news is, we found a place to rent here in Kona that has agreed to the dogs. It’s only up the block, so moving should be relatively easy. It’s expensive…but thankfully my boyfriend is with us for all the support both emotional and financial that it will entail. 


It has not come easy. It took weeks for the owner to come around to us (apparently, two dogs are better than a group of young single people or a family of 10). We had to endure a long, detailed financial application and background check. And the hardest, for me, has been the emotion of it all.


My stay at the house my beautiful late husband and I shared is coming to an end.


I will leave part of me behind here. My heart, or most of it, it feels like. 


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  • commented on Third Time Round 2015-06-16 22:14:17 -0700
    Life in cycles, yes…annual remembrances and celebrations, especially in the eyes of a child, are things that can be looked forward to. Thinking of you and all that is to come. Blessings.

  • commented on Room for What Comes 2015-06-16 22:12:20 -0700
    I admire your courage and strength, Tricia. Making room for new life is so hard, but you’re right; we have to create the space. Changes around the home, I’ve also found, is not only good distraction but a way to reinvent our new lives…as we must, somehow, find to do. Blessings and thanks.

  • commented on From Three Years 2015-06-15 16:20:36 -0700
    Faith in the unknown. Nailed it. I feel the same way. Thank you for sharing this.

  • commented on My Husband, My Blessing 2015-06-15 16:19:04 -0700
    Gorgeous wedding…I’m so sad you only had six weeks as husband and wife…Mike and I used to love calling each other that. I miss it. You didn’t have long enough, Rebecca. But then again no matter how long it is it’s never long enough.

  • commented on Making It To The Top 2015-06-11 22:39:24 -0700
    Even small feats seem huge in the wake of our losses…this one is huge in itself, and very meaningful. I send you hugs and warm thoughts. It’s nice to know we are not alone in this journey.

  • commented on The Musician: Part II 2015-06-12 14:53:39 -0700
    Thank you ladies…one more I think.

  • commented on As Memories Fade 2015-06-01 01:07:21 -0700
    I am glad you had a dream-moment with Stan. I treasure those I have with Mike. Hugs to you on this one year mark. All the days we are spending without our loves are challenging, but those milestones are particularly hard as they starkly measure the time without them.

  • commented on The Knowing 2015-05-29 17:38:02 -0700
    This is so incredibly beautifully written and friggin TRUE. Thank you Kelley.

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