Its "RUOK?" day in Australia today. I wrote this on my blog as an initial gut response to some facebook "friends" who flippantly asked me the question in a facebook message.....
RUOK is a great concept … for other people.
But if someone asks me today, I may slap them.
I. Am. Not. OK.
And asking me will not make me OK.
and if I am not OK
I will not tell them anyway …
Sometimes life really sucks and it means more to have someone who can listen without trying to make it all “OK”.
Which is why I blog …. bloggers listen and know better than to use some cutesy text-talk question.
I am not OK and asking me will not help.
Helping me will help.
But flippantly tossing me an acronym really, really won’t.
(addendum - if the question is asked using the guidelines given on the website, it's a great idea. But nobody I know in real life (on facebook) seems to have read the guide ... and telling a widow to "not worry" is completely useless ... as you all know).