Mark Liebenow

  • commented on Pockets of Loss 2015-10-02 14:57:08 -0700
    You said it well, Tricia. The only way not to suffer loss is not to love, and that’s too steep price to pay.

  • commented on Living on Memory Lane 2015-09-21 16:27:01 -0700
    Big smile on my face, Tricia. It was on a weeklong hike in Yosemite, a year and a half after Evelyn died, that I came to the same realization.

  • commented on Enough 2015-07-13 13:45:31 -0700
    Beautiful words about letting go, remembering, celebrating, and creating a new life, one not imagined or dreamed for. The hard facing of your new reality, the setting aside distractions and sitting with this, and the beginning again. This is moving, Tricia.

  • commented on Without Him In It 2015-07-06 10:46:50 -0700
    “There is no easy way to cut through this pain. We have to live it, and share it, and remember we are not alone in it.” Thank you for this, Tricia.

  • commented on Fractured Relationsships 2015-06-01 19:17:32 -0700
    The 2nd anniversary! That makes sense that the people involved would have different reactions on the 2nd. What happened on my 2nd? There were just a couple of people involved on my 1st after my wife die, and then because I said I needed help. By the 2nd I think everyone but me had moved on. And by then I had been drifting for some time.

  • commented on The Knowing 2015-06-01 18:59:49 -0700
    As much as I know, I cannot fast forward anyone through their grief. But I can sit with them and listen. —True words, Kelley. And I’m thinking that before your grief you wouldn’t have been able to do this.

  • commented on Letting Go of my Dream, Making Way for the New 2015-06-01 18:52:09 -0700
    Letting go of our old dreams is hard. When my wife died, my vision of my future disappeared because she was the main part of it. Finding a new dream is hard, too. With sudden deaths, and out of order deaths, we don’t know what our loved ones would want for us, but I think they’d want us to be happy again.

  • commented on Tailor Made 2015-06-01 18:44:12 -0700
    You kept your heart open. This is so hard to do when it’s been stomped on, and our natural reaction is to close up and protect what’s left. I’m smiling with your news.

  • commented on Mass Confusion 2015-06-01 16:48:51 -0700
    I agree, Alison. Today, if we are feeling sad or lonely, our only task is to be sad or lonely. If we do not allow ourselves to feel the “negative” emotions, do not allow ourselves to feel what we are feeling, then we will never truly experience being happy, because everything will be putting on a show for others, and we will feel hollow.

  • commented on As Memories Fade 2015-06-01 07:28:43 -0700
    You say this so well. And what a wonderful dream! As survivors, we become the gate keepers of our loved one’s memories. Some memories we cannot yet face, and we hope that we will be able to before they slip away.