Kelley Lynn commented on Life is for Living 2016-11-25 08:49:10 -0800I love this for SO many reasons. This is what love is . You and Mike have such a deep love. He put aside his passions for awhile because he was so worried about triggering you, and now you are putting aside your triggers so he can have his passions. That is beautiful. And very courageous. xoxo
Kelley Lynn commented on Further Away 2016-11-25 08:43:26 -0800Thanks Hillary! There is no such thing as letting go or moving on, at least not in my world. I wont do it, and anyone that asks me to, can kindly go screw lol.
Kelley Lynn commented on Making Lemonade out of Death 2016-11-14 09:53:45 -0800I loved this, and you know I use humor as a coping skill, and more of a survivor skill, really. I liked how you discovered yourself taking on Megan’s use of dark humor as a coping device, “because it worked.” My husband Don also had this same humor. My humor is dark, but his was darker. He joked about things like death, and then he would burst out laughing and say “that was so wrong.” He loved that kind of humor, which is why I know he would LOVE the idea of me getting onstage and joking about grief and death and loss. About all the crappy things people say, etc etc. I always picture his face, in the front row, laughing like mad and giving me that look, like he was in awe of me.
Kelley Lynn commented on One Month Till One Year 2016-11-06 07:53:18 -0800Sweet girl, these pictures broke my heart. Im the Friday here on here, and been reading your posts and I just want to hug you. Im at 5 years now, and Iremember the 11 month mark, the one year mark, so well … and how awful it was, and how surreal it was, and how I replayed everything leading up to “the day” for 2 months before. Please know you will not be in this place forever. It will change and shift and not always be this hard and this raw pain all the time. My husbands death was sudden also.Here one second, gone the next. It will never make sense to me. Not ever. But Rumi is right. the healing from the pain is in the pain. Sending you love.
Kelley Lynn commented on Beautifully Broken 2016-11-14 09:44:26 -0800Thank you so much everyone. And Flo ,,,, how amazing that your friend shared that post on the same day I shared this. Definitely connected.
Kelley Lynn commented on 4 Things to Note about Dating a Widow/er 2016-11-01 17:12:54 -0700Mike, this is hilarious. you should write more funny stuff like this. So good!!! ps Remind me never to come over when youre cooking mac and cheese with cut up hot dogs. YUCK!!!! lol. thats some fine cuisine……..
Kelley Lynn commented on Its My Anniversary, and My Husband Is Dead 2016-10-30 07:06:41 -0700Thank you everyone. Judy – working didnt help at all. I was a mess the whole time and haad to havve my assistant cover my first class cuz I couldnt pull it together. Don – thank you, so glad it resonated with you, and so sorry any of us have to know what this feels like.
Kelley Lynn commented on Apples to Oranges 2016-10-30 05:29:51 -0700Oh wow I really liked this, especially that last line, about liking who you are with both of them. Since thats the key, right? Finding someone that makes us want to be the best of who we are, and who makes us feel better than we feel without them around. I think its impossible not to compare, but I love how you worded it, that youre really comparing how YOU are with both of them. And how cool that you and Sarah now have history together. I love that, and I love all the many ways that you add to each others lives. Keep writing, Mike. I really like reading your pieces.
Kelley Lynn commented on It's Back Again, But You're Not Here .... 2016-10-24 18:20:06 -0700Thank you to every one of you that replied. Im so thankful to you all. Really.
Kelley Lynn commented on I'm Sorry 2016-10-24 18:18:46 -0700Hey Michele, what are you sorry about? lol
Kelley Lynn commented on Celebrating the Tiny Victories 2016-10-24 18:17:59 -0700Yay!!! And you also took me to the airport!!! So thats another place you know how to get to now …. woo hoo!!!!
Kelley Lynn commented on Mending Furniture & Hearts 2016-10-16 09:14:30 -0700This is how I always pictured love after loss being too. Actually, this is how I NEED it to be. I simply wont do it any other way. ANYONE who wants me to forget about Don or push him into the background, or not love him anymore – doesnt understand at all, and wont last in a relationship with me. It has to all connect – like Michele says, its about blending what was, with what IS, with what will be. I think you and Mike do that really beautifully, and I really admire your relationship and all the ways you take care of each other, and all the ways you acknowledge and honor Drew and Megan as forever parts of your lives.
Kelley Lynn commented on Stepping out of the Vacuum 2016-10-03 07:11:21 -0700This is why EVERY SINGLE TIME I go back to camp widow, I get something new out of it. Meet new people, hear a message I really needed to hear, understand something from a new perspective, or get instantly reminded once again , from allthe terrrified new faces walking in crying and saying “I cant do this” – just how absolutely vital it IS that community likethis exists. ANd its my community , my FAMILY, that covers for me when I cant write my blog lol. Thank you Sarah!
Kelley Lynn commented on Reconnecting to Magic 2016-10-03 07:04:15 -0700I love this. What a beautiful tradition.
Kelley Lynn commented on It's the 3 Dots at the end... 2016-09-21 14:08:30 -0700so beautiful, and so very true. xoxo
Kelley Lynn commented on The Springtime of my Heart 2016-09-11 12:20:01 -0700So beautiful. congrats on officially moving in!
Kelley Lynn commented on A Path Built on Love 2016-09-11 12:14:38 -0700THank you everyone!!! Im equal parts excited, scared, and really sad to be leaving NYC. Its very hard and emotional, and yet I feel like its time. Thanks for the words of support. It helps knowing Im not completely insane for leaving my job of 16 years for something unknown …….
Kelley Lynn commented on Peanut Butter and Homework 2016-09-07 18:06:08 -0700So touching, as always. I love reading your blogs.
As a widowed person, I sometimes feel as if I'm been convicted of something.
Perhaps I did something wrong, and I just dont remember.
Being widowed is sort of like having to plead your case,
take the Fifth,
to a Jury of your "peers",
over and over and over
For some reason,
when you become widowed,
people seem to think
that this gives them the right
to give any and all opinions
on your life.
How you should feel.
What you should do.
How you should grieve.
When you should date.
When you should "get rid of" his things.
Take off your wedding ring.
Get over it.
"It's been 3 months. Why arent you dating anyone?"
"It's been 6 years, and you're in LOVE after only knowing someone for a few months? That seems VERY FAST!"
you know what?