Kelley Lynn

When I first lost my husband to sudden death, I knew absolutely nobody that was my age who was widowed. The word "widow" made me cringe, and I ran away from any possibility that it could or would ever apply to me. Then I discovered Soaring Spirits and Camp Widow. Here were these people - hundreds of them - all over the country and the world - who were just like me. They had lost their partners too, and they were hurting and feeling alone too. Except suddenly, none of us were alone anymore, because now we had each other. The widowed community that I have met through Soaring Spirits is a HUGE part of the reason why I am alive and WANTING to be alive today. No joke. My widowed friends save my life over and over and over again, and I love them in a way that is impossible to describe. Soaring Spirits connects widowed people, and when you lose the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with - connection to people who "get it" means everything. My friends in the widowed community are evidence that there is life - joyful life - after loss. They inspire me daily, and I will always pay it forward however I can to Soaring Spirits, for giving me back my life again.

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Days like today. 

All is fine. 

I have not much to say. 

Birds are singing,

sun is bright, 

autumn has brought her glory. 

Im not feeling particularly sad.

Im in love.

Finally. 

Life is life again, 

and Im not just existing,

anymore. 

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  • commented on Views from Auschwitz 2017-10-14 11:46:34 -0700
    they had names. really beautiful post.

  • commented on Moment of Silence for Football Widows .... 2017-10-12 09:16:28 -0700
    Hahaha!!!! Youre right Don. I neglected to mention shopping widows. You too, deserve a day.

  • commented on T.M.I. 2017-10-12 09:15:13 -0700
    Awesome. I can relate to this so much.

  • commented on Putting Death out Front 2017-10-08 12:18:14 -0700
    This is awesome and you are too. I will be sharing this a bit closer to Halloween. I love everything about it. Including this great picture.

  • commented on Driftwood 2017-10-07 09:14:57 -0700
    Beautiful. Welcome to the writing club. Im the Friday writer here :)

  • commented on I Get It Now, and I'm Sorry 2017-10-07 09:16:50 -0700
    Thank you marty. that is very kind ….

  • commented on Anxiety 2017-09-12 08:47:27 -0700
    So glad to hear that Barbara. It makes me happy when my words can help someone through something.

  • commented on Widowmaker 2017-09-01 05:02:22 -0700
    Beautiful post.

  • commented on Aftermath 2017-09-01 04:57:39 -0700
    Love you Sarah.

  • commented on Parallel Lives 2017-08-27 07:33:28 -0700
    Thank you everyone. Thank you Don, that means a LOT coming from you, since I know you arent at all in a place currently where “new love” is a thing, so for you to be genuinely happy for someone else is HUGE. Just know that. Ive been there. THank you soooo much to you all … LInda, juli, jacque, cynthia….

  • commented on Losing Pieces of You 2017-08-25 08:09:46 -0700
    Wow. I am floored by all these thoughtful comments from every one of you. Thank you so very much. xoxo

  • commented on Her Final Song 2017-08-25 07:47:43 -0700
    Dammit Sarah … the crying …. you make me cry. Im SO sorry about your friend, and this post is absolutely beautiful. As are you. Mommy.

  • commented on Common Ground 2017-08-25 07:44:48 -0700
    I love this post, and Im very late in reading it. We need to catch up soon!!!!

  • commented on Hiatus 2017-07-31 14:28:41 -0700
    Janice our group is in the middlesex/worcester county area of Mass, we meet up 2x per month for social events etc. You can go to our FB page (soaring spirits regional group middlesex/worcester mass ) or to the SS site (right here) where all the regional groups are listed under regional groups.

    Linda, thank you for missing me. I was missing writing so much, but I was so dizzy I couldnt look at a screen or words for weeks. Now the vertigo is almost gone, thankfully.

  • commented on Being Responsible for Our Joy 2017-07-31 14:23:19 -0700
    I love this and have been feeling so similarly lately. This will help me get back to the joy I have fought for, DAMMMIT!!! lol

  • commented on Dear Dead Husband ... 2017-06-14 08:23:44 -0700
    THank you Bruce. Yes, that is exactly it. It does get harder, because the only thing harder than existing is living. Really LIVING. So hard.

  • commented on Eight Years and Crying 2017-06-14 08:17:10 -0700
    Tons of love xoxo

  • commented on My Own Decisions 2017-06-14 08:14:20 -0700
    That sounds very stressful. I hope that the people who are doing this somehow will SEE this blog post and understand that you deserve and need respect, as Shelby’s dad, AND as Meghans husband/widower.

  • commented on Back to You 2017-06-14 08:03:57 -0700
    Thanks everyone. Its not really that Im “blaming” Don for anything – its just more that every hardship in life, feels like it always comes back to me wishinig he was here with me to go through it with me. Ive been told by many, since this post, that I will ALWAYS wish that. I think thats pretty realistic, but I guess Ill find out.

  • commented on “Share your memories! (3 Years Ago)" 2017-06-14 08:01:32 -0700
    Go sit in the corner and shut up. lol. You rock. And yeah ….those FB reminders can be such a kick in the heart. Very well written, as always. xo

Kelley is a comedian, writer, actor, and speaker living in NYC. She married her soul-mate and best friend Don, in October of 2006. She was 35, and he was 42. Just over four years later, he would die shockingly from a massive heart-attack. Kelley has turne
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