Rebecca Collins

"In the days following my husband's unexpected suicide, I turned to the internet for information and support - and found Soaring Spirits.  At 33, I didn't know anyone who had lost a spouse or anyone who had died from depression. I couldn't have felt more alone.  

Soaring Spirits gave me a community, some incredible life-long friends, and hope that there would be more to come for me.   The inspirational people whom I met through Widowed Village and Camp Widow helped me find my way through the most difficult time of my life.

Today, I chose to focus on how lucky I am to have met Daniel and to feel grateful for the lessons he taught me and the blessings he brought to my life.  I am determined to live a happy life, in honor of the dreams we had together. 

I also feel grateful to be able to pass on that same hope to those who are facing their own tragic loss, through the Soaring Spirits community."  


  • commented on Widow Bingo 2015-08-05 19:45:48 -0700
    Ariana I’m sorry to hear about your recent loss. It must be very new and raw for you. Have you received one of the Soaring Spirits ‘newly widowed’ packs? You can read about the resources and request a pack here – http://www.soaringspirits.org/newly-widowed

    I also recommend reaching out to other widowed people through Widowed Village – http://www.soaringspirits.org/widowed-village-forum – I joined in the weeks after my husband died and it really helped me.

  • commented on Second Year Milestones... and Counting 2015-07-21 22:59:55 -0700
    Thanks Kelley Lynn, knowing how my widow friends’ healing processes are so different to my own reminds me that our grief is all so different. At the start, I did a lot of judging my own progress against that of others and it nearly drove me crazy with frustration and worry! With Dan’s anniversary looming I’ve been tearier than usual this week… wishing I was going to be seeing you all at Camp Widow this weekend!! xo

  • commented on Hey Bud 2015-07-08 00:13:23 -0700
    This is wonderful Mike, thanks for sharing.

  • commented on The Fields of Tomorrow 2015-07-06 15:47:08 -0700
    Wow. So very beautiful. Thank you for sharing!

  • commented on My Week of Retreat 2015-07-06 15:49:28 -0700

  • commented on Love's Remnants 2015-06-30 21:06:42 -0700
    Tricia this spoke to me on so many levels. My husband sometimes travelled for work and being away from him was such a torment. I hated it, even for one night. I remember the day he died, thinking to myself ‘I am miserable and ache for him after only a matter of hours, how on earth am I going to survive without him for the rest of my life?!’ I wonder if on some level, the despair I felt when he travelled was because my soul knew that the pain of missing him would be one of my biggest life hurdles.

    On another note, what beautiful treasures you have of your time together. We left love notes too, and I cling to them now. While I’ve slowly sorted some of his possessions, I still leave many around our home. His bed-side drawer is still solely his and his office (now mine) home to many of his personal momentos.

    Thank you for sharing this here, it gave me a lot to think about xo

  • commented on Bringing New Love Home 2015-06-29 15:57:03 -0700
    Thank you so much for sharing Sarah! Like most widows, I have this almost obsessive fascination when my peers take steps into new love! I’m clinging on every word, looking for slivers of hope :)
    In particular, your words about Mike integrating into Drew’s family resonate with me. I’m very close with Dan’s family, they call me their daughter and sister, and while they’re encouraging of me moving forward and want me to have that in my life again, I know it will be hard on all of us. I hope it’s as successful for me (when the time comes) as it was for you this weekend!
    Again, so so happy for you two. Long live love!

  • commented on My Other Soul Mate 2015-06-29 15:58:59 -0700
    Ah, typo! Sorry Kelley Lynn (with two ’n’s!)

  • commented on Unintended Solitude 2015-06-27 03:59:29 -0700
    It’s so easy for me to torture myself with my regrets. Missed opportunities, chances I had to maybe help Dan more with his disease that neither of us really understood. It’s so hard to let go of that.
    Like you, I too generally felt comfortable with my personal space but worry there may be a chance I’ll change in a future relationship. One of the many things to wait and see and work out I guess!
    Thank you for sharing x

  • commented on Anchor 2015-06-26 21:44:14 -0700
    Oh hon this sucks. I’m so glad this doctor is seeing you for free and helping you find answers but sorry to hear you’ve got so much on your plate x

  • commented on The Walk of Grief 2015-06-22 16:36:14 -0700
    “My reason for having to endure the death of my fiance is so that I can better understand the pain of others, and so that I can bring whatever tools I have acquired to help them.”
    This has been ringing true for me too… It can be a heavy realization, discovering some kind of ‘purpose’ in your pain. You are an incredible woman :)

  • commented on Everywhere 2015-06-21 16:19:45 -0700
    Im just catching up on the past couple of days blogs and love this! It makes me so happy, seeing this peace in you. And I’m so glad you’re sharing everything you’ve learnt with others. You’re going to be such a fantastic help to those you grief coach.

  • commented on Can I Really Do This 2015-06-21 16:09:31 -0700
    Thank you ladies, I appreciate your support and am having an incredible time!! I’ll write more about it on Saturday.

    Kelley Lynn, maybe I’m bribing Michele for extra points with imported shipments of Australian coffee! But we all know our fearless leader could never be swayed like that! ;)

  • commented on The Musician: Part III 2015-06-21 16:05:48 -0700
    Thank you so much for sharing this, I’m really glad you did. What a beautiful story, it made me very happy xo

  • commented on Third Time Round 2015-06-17 20:11:40 -0700
    What a beautiful photo Kerryl, I can see why you were reluctant to change it. But good on you for taking another significant step and making it through another milestone ok.

  • commented on Back to Basics 2015-06-14 18:13:00 -0700
    Ellen I’m so sorry for your loss… losing your love unexpectedly two days ago, you must still be reeling. I’m glad you found Soaring Spirits, I hope this community can help you as much as it has helped me. Thank you for commenting on my post, I have just re-read what I wrote and today, another year down the track, I can see that it has gotten easier with time. I still miss my husband dearly but the sharp edges of the pain have dulled somewhat. Sending you love, please take care xo

  • commented on From Three Years 2015-06-14 18:09:14 -0700
    This: “It may be sooner than I FEEL ready to, but each time I dive into the emotions of the next layer – I discover I was more ready than I had known”!

    I’ve felt a bit of that myself lately and it’s so surprising and comforting. It reminds me to trust myself, because it’s so easy to doubt.

    Thanks for sharing, sending you love.

  • commented on My Husband, My Blessing 2015-06-14 02:39:51 -0700
    Haha, , so you’re trying to catch me Kelley Lynn!! I might need to up the anti :) I helped Michele out by transferring some of the old blog pages over when she was setting up the site and it earned me some extra points. Thank you for your lovely comment, my photographer really was incredible and I will treasure our photos for the rest of my life, they are priceless. Miss you my lovely friend, I wish I was going to be seeing you in San Diego!! x

  • commented on The Musician: Part II 2015-06-12 02:44:01 -0700
    Can’t wait for the next instalment!! :)

Rebecca wed her darling Daniel in 2013, after a wonderful 18-months together. However, only six weeks after their wedding, Daniel died unexpectedly from depression. Widowed as a newlywed at 33, Rebecca re-built her life with help from Soaring Spirits
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