As this Odyssey of Love Expands~

My rig, PinkMagic.  I bought her brand new following Chuck's death. I had to find a way to continue the life that Chuck and I lived on the road. Emotionally, I just couldn't bear to do it in the way that he and I did for 4 years; staying at lodging on military bases, and at inexpensive hotels. How tragically sad would it be...a country western tune gone wrong...for me, as a widow, to sit in a  godforsaken back of beyond and lonely hotel room on the back roads of our country. As devastated as I was, that would be too much even for me. Also...I knew that doing so would only lead to isolation, and isolating myself could only lead me down a dark tunnel.

So, I bought a tiny T@b Teardrop trailer, and keeping in mind what I'd told Chuck before he died I'll paint my car pink so that you can find me out on the road, I painted it in the same shade of pink I'd had created for my car Chuck's Watchin' Over Me, and set out on the road on my Odyssey of Love.

I've lived on the Love he left behind for me. I've reached out and created a country wide community of Love and support and encouragement for myself.  My rig has drawn people to me everywhere. Why all the pink? is what they're wondering. And I tell them about my beloved husband whose left behind Love keeps me going, and I hear their stories. It's the only reason I'm sane, I'm certain.

110,000 miles. 8 times crisscross the USA in all directions. Hugs given and received. 

I take no part of this lightly. It is truly an Odyssey of Love. I reach out to people and they reach out to me. 

It has, for these 4 years and 8 months, been about Chuck.

But it is time to broaden this Odyssey of Love. Time to make it more powerful. Time to take the inspired Love and bring more Love into it.

Last Friday evening, I wrote a post on my Happily Homeless is MoonStruck page, about this very thing. That it is time to take this Odyssey to the next level.

Send me the names of your loved ones, I asked. #SayTheirName Send me the name of your person and I'll write it on the broad canvas of my rig, PinkMagic. I will take their names and write them in red pen on my rig and their names and their left behind Love and your Love and your Love for them will travel with me around the country. 

PinkMagic will become a moving memorial to those we love. I will carry their names with me in all directions and people around the country will read their names and speak their names. 

This Odyssey of Love has always been bigger than me and Chuck, and I've known that from the beginning. Each step occurs as it needs to occur. For years now I've wanted to add the outside of my rig, but I could never figure out exactly what it would be.

Until Friday evening, when i realized that what it requires are the names of all our loved ones from my widowed community. 

In 12 hours, I gathered 150 names. 

There is more space. Please send the name of your person to me, and I'll add it to PinkMagic. Or, if you want to wait until I come to where you are, you can write it yourself. 15940809_1163901093679052_5201572318900429783_n.jpg

I plan on holding meet and greets as I travel you can catch updates on my Happily Homeless is MoonStruck page. I plan on inviting my sister and brother widows you to come meet me and write your person's name on my rig yourself. I plan on contacting the media in each area where I stay for more than a couple days, to come and take pictures, because I want to bring widowhood out of the shadows and give us all an opportunity to tell our stories.

None of us are living the story we want to live, or wished to live. It sucks and it hurts and we miss them. God we miss them. And, at the same time, there is so much Love that they left behind for us and I, by god, will make that Love as tangible as can be, by writing their names on my lovely little pink trailer, towed by my equally pink car. 

This Odyssey of Love? It's about all of us and about all of the men and women who loved us, who are no longer on this earth.

#SayTheirName here, and I'll write it in my book and then write it on PinkMagic.

This Odyssey of Love just got more powerful, and I invite you all to join me, as it continues~



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  • commented 2017-12-27 17:55:35 -0800
    The love of my life my husband of almost 40 years Terry Bradley passed away at the age 60 last year.
  • commented 2017-12-14 19:33:33 -0800
    #SayTheirname Doug Lundy
  • commented 2017-12-14 14:54:16 -0800
    #SayTheirName Bernardo, Sr.
  • commented 2017-12-14 10:52:16 -0800
    This is a lovely idea Alison. I live in the UK and I’ve been reading comments on this site for 2 years now. My darling husband died in August 2014. I would be honoured if you would include his name on your rig. His name was Momcilo Tutus. Thankyou so much. Crying as I write his name…
  • commented 2017-12-14 06:20:27 -0800
    #saytheirname – Kenneth Rostkowski

    This is a beautiful, loving gift.
  • commented 2017-12-13 22:27:03 -0800
    #saytheirname – Tony Lee Richardson. We are so honored you would do this for us and for him. Hugs to you Alison. Hope to see you one day out on the road.
  • commented 2017-12-13 19:28:32 -0800
    Thank you Alison! My beloved hubby William Woodring. It would warm my heart to meet you if you are anywhere near Los Angeles or Riverside, CA. Always with you in spirit 💜
  • commented 2017-12-13 18:37:06 -0800
    #SayTheirName Robert Swigris. Lost him in the spring. Living on his Love but some days just barely. Thank you for this beautiful thought.
  • commented 2017-12-13 18:34:05 -0800
    This is beautiful….my person is my husband, John Pete Tevebaugh, Jr.
  • commented 2017-12-13 18:26:27 -0800
    And now I’m in tears, what a lovely, beautiful idea.
    My husband died last year. I had always wanted to take him across country, him and our kids, because I had went with my parents in college and new he would love it. He died before we were ever able to even plan it. This would mean so much to me.
    His name is/was Michael Calhoon.
    Thank you.
  • commented 2017-12-13 18:23:27 -0800
    #SayTheirName – Philip A Kenyon

    What a wonderful idea – thank you so much for the opportunity to add my husbands name. I would love to see your rig if you get close to Syracuse.
  • commented 2017-12-13 10:54:48 -0800
    insert so many tears thru my smiles

    My son Jonathan Paul Daily – my only child who died in a fire at age 24 on 3/1/12.

    I would be SO GRATEFUL to add his name – it’s a gift that means more than any material crap :):)
  • commented 2017-12-13 09:39:52 -0800


    Now please come to NYC so I may view it or write it myself!

    I love this!
  • commented 2017-12-13 08:45:40 -0800
    Corey Phypers

    Thank you for doing this !!!!
  • commented 2017-12-13 07:45:33 -0800
    #SayTheirName – Thruston Stewart Doan. (Not Thurston!)

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