Don Yacona

  • commented on I Will Never Move On 2016-02-19 06:10:01 -0800
    Kelley, you are correct on every point. So far I’ve only had one person tell me to “move on” and that person is now shut out of my life now. I passed 8 months last week and I visit the grave pretty much every day. There is no such thing as “move on” for us.

  • commented on You Deserve To Share This 2016-02-06 05:53:49 -0800
    I can identify. We were Sandy survivors and I had been out of work for several years before that. So things were falling apart before the hurricane and before she got very sick. In the period before she passed, we were buying new furniture and having our hallway renovated and had new floors put in. She never saw it in the house because she couldn’t climb steps well enough to come home and then was in either the hospital or rehab/nursing facilities her last 7 1/2 months. It feels like a different house right now, but it doesn’t feel like “home” because she’s not here to see it. And it’s killing me. It’s not fair that she never came home.

  • commented on The Lovely Dance of Grief~ 2016-01-27 10:17:27 -0800
    That was beautiful Alison. I carry guilt because I couldn’t make a good life for her. And lately, most of my memories are from when things started getting bad 8-10 years ago and they are overwealming my memories of all of our good times. I worry that I’m losing her from when she was healthy and vibrant. All I am remembering now is when she was sick, getting sicker and in more and more in pain and agony. Its not right and its not fair.

  • commented on One More Phone Call 2016-01-25 15:04:07 -0800
    I completly understand. I have a picture of her in every room and I still haven’t disconnected her cellphone. There are times when i call it just to hear the voice or listen to voicemails that are on my phone, even though most of those are of her calling while screaming in pain. It’s still her voice and I miss it so much. I’m a little more than seven months out and I am still getting grief spasms several times a day.

  • commented on You Find What Works 2015-12-18 17:45:58 -0800
    First let me say that that is a wonderful picture of you two. Now, as for myself, Thanksgiving went by ok, got an invite to one of my cousins. When I got home, I fealt empty as usual, looked at the spot where she used to sit, and lost it. But thats not unusual because thats my normal reaction when I look there. I’m not sure how I will react to Christmas, what I am dreading is New Years eve. Early on, we would come into the city, have dinner and then go to a comedy club. Then, when I got skittish about driving into the city that night because its ametuer night, we would go to dinner, a movie, then come home and watch the ball drop on tv and have champaign. Then she would call relatives to say happy New Year while I turned on the Honeymooners marathon. In the last three years, she was either in the hospital or in a nursing rehab for two of them, so that stopped. This year will be the first time I’m going to be home by myself without her. And it dawned on me, that this is the first holiday season where I wasn’t around her since 1979. I really am dreading New Years.