Don Yacona

  • commented on Moment of Silence for Football Widows .... 2017-10-09 11:22:58 -0700
    What about us widowers of shopaholics?

  • commented on Live Life 2017-10-02 12:18:50 -0700
    Amazing! First I have to say that I truly despise the phrase “Happiness is a choice”. Walk in my shoes and see how you like it if someone says that to YOU!
    Second, I’m 27, almost 28 months out and I have done things because I have a lot of “Shoulda dones” with Arlene and I don’t want that for me. So I have a bucket list, I traveled 5 times, 3 of them during year two. And this summer, I went zip lining and I also rode in the front seat of an open cockpit biplane. I had wanted to try skydiving but apparently I’m too fat. One day maybe, I hope. When I join her, I want as few regrets as possible. And who knows, maybe I’ll be able to find a place that will let a middle aged, fat, bald and nearsighted guy jump out of a perfectly good airplane. I can dream can’t I?

  • commented on Junk Mail - Repost 2017-09-28 11:26:09 -0700
    I get mail and magazines. They don’t set me off. What sets me off are the phone calls on my cell asking for her. I used to scream, reason, threaten. Now I just tell them to call xxx-xxx-xxxx and tell them"I garantee she’s there. I was there with her this morning but she didn’t have anything to say" Then I tell them not to take no for an answer when they call. The number I give them is the cemetery. I’d give them the address, but I’m afraid I’ll drive up and there would be a UPS box in front of her stone.

  • commented on Yeah, I'm Good With it~ 2017-09-27 11:03:26 -0700
    A-Fuckin-MEN!

  • commented on Anxiety 2017-09-08 11:01:58 -0700
    WONDERFUL!

  • commented on Parallel Lives 2017-08-26 09:47:32 -0700
    You don’t know how happy I am for you right now. I think you are showing real courage, and I think you know how seriously I take that “C” word. I use it very very sparingly. God bless you.

  • commented on Sorry Too Late 2017-08-24 11:01:56 -0700
    I totally get that. In the last few months, my trips to the supermarket have been with the company of The Grief Monster. I’m food shopping for just me and I pass things that she would have bought. It truly sucks.

  • commented on Look Up 2017-08-18 11:04:19 -0700
    I saw it, it was inspiring and truly amazing

  • commented on On the Road Life and Loneliness~ 2017-08-15 12:24:34 -0700
    Timing is everything. Last week I took what I’ve been calling my Hall of Fame trip. I drove from New York to Cleveland (8 hours) and on the way, on I-80, I stopped by accident at a strip mall which low and behold was one that Arlene and I had stopped at during our last trip together. Then as I continued, I was able to pick out the hotel complex which had the hotel in which we slept in the same bed for the last time (We had been displaced due to delayed issues from Hurricane Sandy and were sleeping on her sister’s couch and love seat). This was the 5th trip and third road trip I had made since she passed and people keep telling me how brave I am by doing that. Frankly I don’t see it. But what I felt, especially with this one and all of the others, was the enormity of her physical absence. Instead of Arlene being in the passenger seat, my snacks and drinks were and I truly hate that. All i kept thinking as the miles passed was the times we had been on that very road, especially on our last trip together.

  • commented on How Are You 2017-07-17 14:11:22 -0700
    I have three stock answers to the “How are you?” question.

    1-“Thats always a relative term for me”

    2-I answer with “How are YOU?”

    3-“Status quo”

    This way I don’t have to answer “Ok” or tell them how I REALLY feel.

  • commented on Idle and Random Thoughts about Life in Grief~ 2017-06-21 12:25:45 -0700
    Amen!

  • commented on Time Waits For No One 2017-06-04 08:02:24 -0700
    I totally understand. The second anniversary of Arlene’s Heart attack and stroke was Friday and none of my relatives even acknowledged it, I have my doubts that they will on Saturday when I pass the two year mark. I havent been able to bring myself to empty her closet or the drawers in her dresser that i havent taken over yet. All I can say is that this truly sucks and people whomhavent gone thru it cannot even begin to understand.

  • commented on Hello, Dead Husband .... 2017-05-12 11:43:08 -0700
    BRAVO!

  • commented on Kelley Lynn at TedX 2017-03-31 08:09:15 -0700
    Good luck

  • commented on Cake and Beer 2017-03-28 11:26:46 -0700
    I can’t tell you how AWESOME this is! For all parties involved. From the bottom of my heart…brav-OH!

  • commented on Oh, the Shame! On THEM~ 2016-12-14 14:38:49 -0800
    BRAVO! People who have never walked this path will never know how hard it is.

  • commented on I have to go home 2016-11-24 19:47:02 -0800
    I understand the pain of leaving someone you love in a facility. My Girlfriend/Partner, in her last 30 months had 4 stays in 3 different rehabs and each time, it ripped my heart out when I would get her set up in her room and have to leave her there at night or in the morning before I had to leave for work.

  • commented on 4 Things to Note about Dating a Widow/er 2016-11-01 14:58:34 -0700
    This was great! I have no interest in the “D” word and I avoid articles like this like the plague, but I really liked this one. Anybody have any Boone’s Farm?

  • commented on Its My Anniversary, and My Husband Is Dead 2016-10-28 14:54:35 -0700
    There are so many things I want to say about this and how perfect it is that I just cant. This is not the life we thought we were going to have. Fate, of whaever you want to call it smacked us with a sledge and said “No, you don’t get this life!”.

  • commented on My Two-ish Selves~ 2016-09-14 09:52:44 -0700
    This is totally me. I funtion because I have to, not because I want to. When people ask me how I’m coping, or comment that I seem to be coping well, my answer is that I’m ok as long as I’m around or interacting with people. I’m not sure if they really get what it is to come home to a now empty house, have to cook for one when I used to cook for two, talk out loud to someone who is their only in spirit and to visit the love of your life at the cemetary as I do each morning.