Lisa Richardson

  • commented on No One To Zip Me Up 2017-08-14 07:20:44 -0700
    I envy you Wendy, for having the courage to go to camp. I live just south of you in Seattle, and although near enough to make the trip, have not found the courage so far. Hope it was a wonderful experience.

  • commented on Her Final Song 2017-08-13 07:57:24 -0700
    Thank you Sarah for this priceless reminder. I’m so very sorry for the loss of your friend and our collective loss of such a beautiful soul. We need more Corenas in our world. I pray she has a wonderful journey.

  • commented on Here I Stand 2017-08-10 23:30:14 -0700
    Somehow the loss of an entire world, all the people, places, memories is devastating. I feel life as I knew it here in my community is over and facing an unknown future doesn’t feel exciting or hopeful like it did with someone to share it. I lived in the islands 30 years ago, but the memories of that special place still wash over me like the gentle tradewinds blowing whenever I close my eyes. Much aloha to you.

  • commented on That Moment 2017-08-03 08:35:07 -0700
    Amen

  • commented on White Noise 2017-07-25 22:22:27 -0700
    I decided not to fight those days. Instead I plan something special to honor and remember him. After six years the only thing I know for certain is I’ll never “get over it” but like you I’m getting used to just “being” with it.

  • commented on Being Mom And Dad 2017-07-24 22:26:39 -0700
    Wendy I’m so there with you. My now 19-year-old son is working on his first car and boy is he resenting only having mom. I’ve always felt so keenly aware that the one thing I can’t be for him is a dad. And I too am thankful for Joseph’s positive post. It helps to hear from both of you!

  • commented on Rattled 2017-07-22 23:59:44 -0700
    Well your rat story triggered my own rat story memories. (We have giant Norwegian tree rats here in the northwest, but we love the trees so we deal with the rats). The memories are so bittersweet. But I did laugh at the last line you wrote….I said the very same thing when I had to fix the faucet! We’re all just doing the best we can.

  • commented on Life Getting in the Way 2017-07-18 07:00:02 -0700
    Mike this is exactly where I’ve been the past few months. Feeling the entire range of what you described, and in a way feeling concerned that somehow after 6 years I’m not “doing it right”. Thanks for reminding me there is no right or wrong in this mess, only forward day by day.

  • commented on The Meaning of Teeth 2017-07-13 07:03:18 -0700
    I think all of us are screaming a big internal – YES!! THAT’S IT EXACTLY!
    I put in my time and it kind of feels like “until it’s my time”…. I’m trying hard to find new purpose but it is so elusive. Sigh

  • commented on Just Another Week 2017-06-29 23:12:21 -0700
    One week after another…I miss the certainty of life with Tony. Everything seems fragile and precarious without him. Sigh

  • commented on Embrace the Tomboy 2017-06-27 23:59:25 -0700
    Way to go Dad! Be proud of that capable young woman. I was like her as a girl – was my dad’s “right hand man” in all house/car projects. Then 6 years ago I found myself a widowed mom to an 12-year-old boy. I can never be his dad, but at least I could show him how to change the oil in his first car.

  • commented on Return To Me~ 2017-06-14 11:38:28 -0700
    Beautiful Alison, just beautiful.

  • commented on “Share your memories! (3 Years Ago)" 2017-06-13 09:45:13 -0700
    Isn’t it sad how technology reminds us whether we want it or not, yet everyone around us expects us to “forget it, get over it, and move on”. So sorry you have to deal with that. Hugs to all of you

  • commented on Killer Lonliness 2017-06-01 23:49:52 -0700
    Loneliness continues to be my biggest struggle. I am so glad we have this community to share. Thank you to all the writers and everyone who reads here. It truly helps me feel not so alone.

  • commented on Its Not Easy 2017-05-20 01:15:32 -0700
    You’re a strong woman Kaiti. Our son was 12 when we lost my Tony. Parenting is a tough job at best, but doing it alone along with the grief makes the unfairness of it all overwhelming. It’s been 6 years for me now. Life is still throwing unfairness my way, and the grief is still there. But I’m watching my son grow into a great young man, and that makes all the struggle worthwhile. It’s ok to just survive some days. We love you

  • commented on This Particular Feeling... 2017-05-18 00:08:22 -0700
    Emptiness is a perfect word for it. I have never felt so alone even surrounded by people I know and love. There’s always this hole in me that can never be filled. I thought it might get better with time, and it is easier to live with a bit after 6 years. But it never goes away.

  • commented on Shifts Happen 2017-04-27 19:47:11 -0700
    Wow ladies I’m there too. It’s such an empty feeling. I get up and work each day because I have a son to put through college and launch hopefully into life on his own. Who am I?

  • commented on Happy 6th Birthday 2017-04-24 23:25:25 -0700
    So many of us share this. Hard as I may try to be the best parent I can for my kids, the one thing I can never be is their dad. But Jacob will know his dad through you and others who tell him about the man his father was. And that will make all the difference.

  • commented on Talking to Mike 2017-04-20 23:58:59 -0700
    Funny, I hear Tony saying “livin’ the dream” – one of his favorite replies to being asked how he was. Now I wonder what that dream is. It is scary to try and see a future. But I’m going headlong into it one day at a time, plan or not. So I guess all we can do is try to enjoy the ride.

  • commented on Pre-survivor's Guilt 2017-04-18 23:24:38 -0700
    Someone once told me “love is strength – lean on it.” Let all of us be your strength this week while you’re away.