You Are Not Alone

Widowed people created Soaring Spirits because we discovered that connecting with other widowed people made the challenges of surviving a spouse or partner a little easier to manage.

There is a widowed community here at Soaring Spirits that offers widowed men and women understanding, friendship, inspiration, and encouragement as they learn to live without the person with whom they intended to spend the rest of their lives. 

Soaring Spirits communities, both online and in-person, are diverse, inclusive, secular, and positive. We share resources, ideas, energy, and most importantly, hope.

We believe that hope matters.


Monkeying Around


In the Chinese zodiac, Mike was a snake. He was born in 1953 which was the water snake. Each animal has five elements, so being that the animals recur every 12 years, if you multiply that by the five elements, the exact animal under which you were born doesn’t reappear again until you are 60.


Mike’s full-cycle water snake began February 9, 2013. He died exactly one week later. Almost to the hour, if you count that it begins on the hour of the new moon.


I’m not an astrology freak, but I do notice such things out of curiosity and interest. I happen to be a monkey, in the Chinese astrology. This year of 2016 is the year of the monkey. The fire monkey, to be exact. My birth water monkey will occur in the next cycle in 2028, when I turn 60. So when I realized the timing of this, it took on a level of grave importance to my small life. This was to be the last full cycle before my birth animal…the one which took Mike.


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The Language of Goodbyes~


This word.

What does it mean to you?  And does it mean something different now than it did before your special someone died?

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Olive Juice

TSO_(2).jpgMegan’s priority in life was Shelby.  The fact that it is so unlikely that a Cystic Fibrosis sufferer can even have a child naturally made Shelby that much more valuable to both of us.  Her “peanut”, as we call her, completed Megan.  


During her hospitalization, Megan and I had to have “the talk”.  We knew the odds of her coming home, and we were smart enough to talk over her wishes should she not be around.  Sure enough, her most important wish was for Shelby to be happy, healthy, and smart.  We had also talked of me moving forward, and that she wouldn’t want me to be alone.  Putting two and two together, I read this as her wishing me to be with someone that was good for Shelby.

Little did I know (and surely wasn’t looking for) that a few months after her passing, a few women would sit down beside me at Camp Widow.  One of those women would move her life 1400 miles to be with me.  It’s been a year since Sarah sat down at that table in the hotel bar and grille.  There hasn’t been a single day we have not talked in some form since then.

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