You Are Not Alone

Widowed people created Soaring Spirits because we discovered that connecting with other widowed people made the challenges of surviving a spouse or partner a little easier to manage.

There is a widowed community here at Soaring Spirits that offers widowed men and women understanding, friendship, inspiration, and encouragement as they learn to live without the person with whom they intended to spend the rest of their lives. 

Soaring Spirits communities, both online and in-person, are diverse, inclusive, secular, and positive. We share resources, ideas, energy, and most importantly, hope.

We believe that hope matters.


A Widow Wedding Anniversary

It has been six years since my husband's sudden death. 

Next week, October 27th, is my wedding anniversary. 


It will be my seventh time going through our wedding anniversary without him here. 

It will be our "would have been 11 years" anniversary. 

I don't feel comfortable saying "it's our 11 year anniversary." 

Because it's not. 

He's dead. 

I'm alive. 

And the law says you can't be married to a dead guy. 

And really, 

it would be kind of creepy to be married to a dead guy. 

But here's the thing ... 

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Tiresome Grief

I’m just so tired.


Sitting here with all this week’s feelings, thoughts and words ping-ponging around my brain, that one just keeps rising to the top.


Grief is a heavy, heavy stone to drag around, and I’m tired. That sinister companion has changed so much, not just in my daily life but how I think about life altogether. 


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Unanswered Questions, and Other Stuff~

I guess one of the fallouts of living in the widow hood, is that we end up in our heads way too frequently, asking questions of ourselves, and of life, about life, ruminating on life in general.

The inside of my brain is a continual hamster wheel.

These are some of the things I wonder, the questions I ask, of myself.  Mostly rhetorically, because as soon as I find one answer, I ask another question within that answer.

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